Everything I Know About Relationship Success I Learned At The
It happened again!
I was enjoying an evening with my little 2-yr. old son at the
playground when, BAM, it happened. You ever have one of those
moments in life when you know you are being taught an important
Picture in your mind a chaotic atmosphere of over fifty little
children battling for their turn to play on a handful of
playground rides and objects.
Recipe for disaster, huh? That's what I thought, too, until my
observations quickly picked up something else.
Sure, they were running into one another, crying and trying to
get ahead of each other for the rides. They were walking across
other children who had fallen down in front of them and were
pushing one another to get their turn. They were running to
their parents for comfort after getting their feelings hurt.
As I stood there taking in the scenery before me, those little
blessings of life showed me some important lessons about
relationship success. If you will indulge me a moment, I will
share with you what I found out.
Relationship Success Lesson #1 - The Principle of Fun:
Not much to say here! It's simple; these kids loved to have fun.
In adult relationships, life throws curves at us constantly.
Responsibilities come at us from every angle. It takes conscious
effort to remember to have fun together in life. I emphasize the
word, "together". I'm not talking about the type of fun where
the husband plays golf and the wife shops.
The "heavy" takes it toll on relationships, and we do well when
we give our relationship a time-out from the heavy and lighten
up. Couples who play together, stay together.
Relationship Success Lesson #2 - The Principle of
As I stood there watching, it was interesting to see how the
younger children reacted to the older kids. It didn't take much
observance to see that they were taken by and fascinated with
Fascination! While it is not a word often associated with
relationship success, if you want thriving relationships, you
may just want to give it some precedence.
I was blessed earlier in life to have a couple who had been
married over twenty-six years model this for me. Whenever anyone
saw them together, they were holding hands and playfully giddy
as if they had just started dating. When I asked what caused her
to be this much in love with a man after so many years of
marriage, she responded, "He fascinates me."
Let that sink in a moment.
Are you an interesting person? Would you consider yourself
intriguing? Do you have interests in life that cause other
people to want to be around you, or are you often bored?
A few things to note:
* Bored people are boring people.
* Having interests will help make us more fascinating in life.
* In the world of relationship enrichment, "Couch Potatoes Need
Relationship Success Lesson #3 - The Principle of
As I stood and watched, two children were running on the
playground in opposite directions, and I saw it coming before
they did. They each circled the same object until they literally
met in the middle. Two more kids came around and did the same
Tempers flared, emotions ran high, tears ran down their cheeks
and feelings were hurt. Less than two minutes later, they were
off running and playing together, and all was forgotten.
What would happen in adult relationships if we learned how to do
that? Instead of internalizing everything, we learn not to take
it all so personally. Instead of holding grudges, we learn to
Children have soft hearts - life can sometimes harden them.
Sheds a little light on the phrase, "Except you become like
little children", doesn't it?
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