Your Online Personal Ad- Write For Success!
Where are all the good men/women? You go to parties, sign up for
various activities and ask friends and family if they know
anyone they can introduce you to. Yet, your dating life has been
more than a little disappointing. What is a guy/girl supposed to
do to find quality people?
Begin by continuing to do what you have been doing. These are
all good ways to meet people. However, you may need to expand
your search to the world of online dating. This would allow you
to expand your search and come into contact with interested and
available singles you would never meet in the existing circles
in which you now move.
Perhaps you are thinking, "I have already tried this with little
or mixed success." Maybe this too has become a source of
disappointment and frustration and even despair. If so, you
could be going about it the wrong way, or be in need of some
information to put you on a track to better success. The first
important step is writing your personal ad and choosing a good
site to place it on.
The following are tips to help you write for success.
* Be Yourself
The goal of your ad is to attract the kind of person who would
be compatible with you. You are looking for someone who shares
your goals, values, sense of humor, lifestyle and perhaps
religion or other specific criteria. If you put in information
that is not true to who you are, you could send potentially good
dates on to the next ad. You may also attract the kind of person
you are not interested in.
* Be Sincere
Nothing is more attractive than sincerity. Think about it. Isn't
this a turn-on for you? If you are funny, be funny. If you are
serious, be that. Use honesty in describing your traits and
desires in a potential mate. If there is something that is a
must-have for you in any future relationship, highlight it.
Remember that when and if you move to the next step, the other
person will experience you as you really are, regardless of what
the picture you drew for them in your ad looked like.
* Write Like You Talk
This goes right along with being you. Don't make your ad seem
too contrived or rehearsed. You will loose that feeling of
sincerity. Write a few drafts and just let the thoughts flow.
Then go back and edit it. Make sure you spell check and check
again. There is no bigger turn-off than someone who appears to
have poor grammar or spelling.
* Be Specific, But Leave Out Hang-Ups and Other Negatives
This is a first step. You want to put your true best forward.
The picture you paint should be upbeat and positive. Everyone
has a past. It's not wise too tell too much too soon. If you
feel something is important, than put it in. A good example is
"single mom", "divorced father of two", etc. Leave out the part
about looking for someone to help me heal from a painful
divorce. Do not mention past relationships except to inform that
you had one.
* Highlight Your Uniqueness
There are things about us all that make us uniquely who we are.
Let your ad portray this. If you have a special talent,
interesting career or pastime, let people know about it. If it's
important to you, it tells others much. If someone out there
shares it, they will be drawn to what you have written.
Find a unique way to highlight yourself. If you look like
someone well known, put that in. Just remember, if you look like
Woody Allen, don't portray yourself as a Robert Redford type.
* Avoid classic turn-offs
If you place a heavy emphasis on finding someone who is
"beautiful" or "wealthy", you will turn off many people- often
the very people who hope to attract. No one wants to be wanted
for his or her looks or bank account. It also says something
about you. How about superficial?
* Use a Picture
This is very important. Ads that don't have one get far fewer
responses. Many singles are having a professional picture made
of them. You want to look like your BEST self. A professional
can usually do a much better job at a very reasonable cost if
you shop around a bit.
* Post Your Ad On The Right Site
There are so many choices out there. Look for one that has a
large membership of people who appear to be compatible with you.
are specialty sites for people who seek a partner with a very
particular passion or lifestyle. These include but are not
limited to: animal lovers, vegetarians, advanced degreed
professionals, and sites for people seeking those of the same
If your requirements include someone within a close geographical
distance, look for the sites that offer you a good selection.
Once you have given it careful thought and a little research and
energy, write and post your ad for success.
Remember, we attract what we are, not what we want.