The Informal Normal in a Black-Tie-Affair World
Have you noticed the trend?
You ever notice how on "The Bachelor" most of their dating
episodes are via limousine escort?
They travel to lavish destinations amid scenic splendor. The
sunsets are so beautiful you can almost hear nature singing its
own rendition of, "Love Is A Many Splendid Thing".
You rarely ever even see a rainy day.
In "Sleepless In Seattle", the audience was left "Speechless in
New York" atop the Empire State Building. The climactic romantic
interlude that followed is one that will be etched in the memory
of movie-lovers for a long time to come.
In "Sabrina", the audience feels the eloquent charm and ambience
"You've Got Mail" spammed us with the scenic elegance and
grandeur of all that's good in and around "The Big Apple".
If you really want to be depressed, sit and watch some of the
work out programs that abound. Watch as brisk morning breezes
enrapture the velvety clouds tracing the horizon from the
backdrops of scenic vistas and ocean views. Who couldn't be
motivated to work out?
We easily become captivated by "Lifestyles of The Rich and
Famous", "Cribs", and the latest craze of "Extreme Make
Over-Home Edition", dreaming if only...
Watch a few of the music videos that abound at VH1, MTV and BET.
You will see more money, lavish diamonds, fancy fashions, flashy
gold jewelry, expensive limousines and other fine automobiles
watching these music video programs for one hour than most
people will see in the average lifetime.
All commercials seem to have the same goal in mind to make us
feel that their product is the missing link to our imminent
We live in a Black Tie Affair World!
No wonder so many people struggle with comparisons.
When one becomes enamored by the glitz and the glamour so
prevalent in our culture, it is easy to feel relationally
shortchanged and cheated in life.
This Black-Tie-Affair mindset causes many couples to strive to
keep up with the Joneses to the point of being maxed out to the
hilt in financial demise from debt. Money issues are cited as
one of the biggest reasons for the breakdown in the family
leading to divorce.
Are you struggling with the fantasy?
Are you confused with all the hoopla?
Is this life reality?
Is this relational reality?
Is it reality?
If it is, I must be missing something. I must have made a wrong
turn in the road somewhere. Most of the families I know must
have made the wrong turn with me.
Although my wife and I love each other very much, much of our
relationship life is spent, well, INFORMALLY NORMAL.
A day in the life for most couples is spent:
* Punching the old inevitable time clock.
* Doing the dishes and the laundry.
* Paying bills.
* Fighting colds, headaches and fatigue.
* Changing diapers.
* Bathing the kids and getting them ready for bed.
* Getting up the next day and doing it all over again.
Most of the world struggles with getting up, getting old,
getting fat, getting sick or simply getting by.
So, do yourself a favor. Stop buying in to all the hoopla and
If you get caught in this web of deceit, you just may miss out
on what really matters - faith, family, character and integrity.
The last time I checked, love wasn't defined by the word MONEY.
For words that better define love you may want to consider:
commitment, sacrifice, support, unselfishness, home building,
encouragement, forgiveness, planning and working together.
Maybe a bit informal and normal...maybe not as flashy as dollar
signs...but ironically, a lot richer!
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