The Power of Presence
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The Power of Presence
This month I would like to share with you a powerful way of
being that I've practiced over the past few months: being
present in each moment. Being present means being aware or
conscious of what's going on inside of you, and allowing it
without judgment. This level of consciousness gives us full
freedom to be who we are. It also brings a tremendous sense of
How do you know when you're present?
You know you are present when you feel at ease with yourself.
There's no underlying tension, your mind isn't chattering on in
judgment of you or someone else. You are also present when you
ALLOW a moment to be as it is. For example, you notice that you
have a story in your mind about a situation. And you observe it
as a story not as truth. Or you feel a negative emotion and you
notice that without judging it. You stay in the moment of
whatever you are feeling.
What stops us from being present?
Reviewing the past and projecting into the future. Many of us
spend half of our time ruminating about the past and reliving
our emotions about it. Then based on what we've experienced in
the past, we project into the future about circumstances that
may never occur. Our mind makes up fear-based stories that
catapult out of the present and into a made-up future. In other
words, we end up resisting the present moment in fear of what
the future might bring.
Let me clarify: By future projections, I mean imagined scenarios
that cause emotional strain, such as "What if this happens or
that happens?" versus planning for the practical matters of
life, such as scheduling your October vacation. Another way of
thinking about this is psychological time which always causes
fear or strain versus the time we keep by clock which we use to
organize the practical matters of life.
What are avenues for being present?
Observe. When you notice that your mind has made up a story
about the past or the future, simply observe it. Observation of
the story will bring you right into the present. After a while,
you'll start to notice that you are not your story, and that two
separate entities exist: you in the present and your mind with
Allow. Allow whatever is in the moment to be there. It is what
it is. Once you begin observing and allowing, you'll notice how
often you resist the moment you are in. That resistance keeps
you in your head and out of the present.
Here's an example of the distinction between allowing and
resisting. At times when my nine month old son is cranky and I'm
frustrated, my natural reaction is resistance. In other words, I
want the moment to be different than it is, which creates
stress. Those times that I've allowed the situation to be what
it is, I felt present and experienced peace.
Once I've become aware of my resistance to what's occurring -
I'll often experience it as physical tension - I'll say to
myself, "I don't like this moment." or "I'm noticing that I feel
frustrated and impatient." Simply observing and allowing what I
experience brings a conscious level of awareness.
We each have an inner peace and freedom that already exists
inside of us. Our job is to release the muck surrounding it, and
reclaim as our own. Stay present by ALLOWING what's there to be
there. Then you can accept it, change it or talk to someone
about it. By spending so much time in the past and the future,
we often resist the gem that's right in front of us.
- Claudette Rowley, coach and author, helps professionals
identify and pursue their true purpose and calling in life.
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