Top 10 Tips for a Great Relationship
Top Tips for a Great Relationship
Commit to telling the total truth A relationship involves three
essential components. You, your partner and the truth. Every
time you hold something back from your partner, a piece of your
Astound your partner with your generosity Relationships work
best when you ask yourself what you can give to your partner,
rather than working out what you can get.
Take responsibility for feeling deeply loved. Accept that it's
your job to educate your partner about what makes you feel most
loved. Love your partner how they want to be loved, not how you
want to be loved.
Make loving each other a priority At some point in the day,
ideally last thing at night, take the time to tell your partner
exactly what you loved most about having them in your life.
Walk away when you get nasty Most of us get a little nasty when
we feel backed into a corner. Come up with a plan that allows
either one of you to walk away from a row when you catch
yourselves saying things you'll regret.
Find out your partners dearest goals and dreams If you support
your partner in achieving their deepest desires, you build a
relationship that leaves a legacy.
Come back together even if you're hurting Develop a simple
ritual for coming back together after a fight. Acknowledge that
you fight only because you feel hurt. If you can accept that,
it's easier to have a truthful conversation.
Know that things are not how they appear Every relationship is a
tangle of projection, transference and a dose of denial. It's as
if your partner is holding a mirror to your face and shows you
what you hate most about yourself. The earlier you can stop
blaming and start talking the better you'll feel.
Accept growing pains All relationships go through stages. Very
few parents throw out their children when they hit the 'Terrible
Two's' so why leave a perfectly workable relationship?
Be realistic No one person is ever going to fulfill your every
need and desire. Imaginary couples fall in love quickly and we
never really hear how it goes after the credits have rolled.
Real couples fall in love slowly and live fully ever after.