New Year's Eve is the traditional time to make resolutions for
the upcoming year. Most resolutions are about something we
really, really want. Even if you are not the type who makes New
Year's resolutions, notice that somewhere, quietly, in the back
of your mind, you are probably making one anyway.
The problem with resolutions, though, is that most people never
keep theirs. And it's no surprise why. Most of us resolve for
big things -- lose weight, get into a relationship, improve a
relationship, get a better job, improve business, get healthy,
save money, etc. These are not easy things, and cannot be
accomplished simply because we resolve to accomplish them. It's
not that big things can't be accomplished. It's just that it
takes something, and often lots of something, to move us in the
direction of accomplishing something big.
This New Year's Eve, try something different. I'm not
guaranteeing this will work for everyone, but it may be an
interesting and useful experiment. It has to be easier than
resolving to do some huge thing you will probably give up a few
days or weeks after the start of the year.
Instead of resolving to achieve, become, or get something,
resolve to add a positive state of being to your life. For
example, resolve to add the state of joy for the year 2003. Or
resolve to add the state of laughter for 2003. Or, resolve to
add the state of pleasure, or creativity, or aliveness, or
surrender, or compassion, or love.
This way your focus will not be on striving for a goal. It will
be on asking yourself what needs to be adjusted, or shifted, in
order to create the state you've resolved to add. You may find
this much easier than other resolutions you have made. It is
easier to answer the question, "What will help me feel happy or
creative right now?" instead of answering the question, "What
will help me lose weight right now?" The first question
definitely has an answer with fairly easy, immediate actions
that you are likely to be willing to take. The second question
also has an answer with fairly easy steps, but you are not as
likely to be willing to take them.
How will this get you to what you really want to achieve,
become, or get in the New Year? When you dwell in a positive
state, such as joy, laughter, pleasure, creativity, aliveness,
surrender, peace, compassion, love -- even some of the time --
much more is possible in your life than would be possible
otherwise. The thing you originally wanted to make as your New
Year's resolution may just come about as a result of a new
positive state you create. The thing you want may happen
Happy New Year! May you make 2003 a wonderful year!
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