Holiday Fun for Singles
Are you dreading the holidays because you are single? For those
who are alone, this can be a difficult season -- especially if
you know what it is like to be in a relationship during this
time of year. This can, however, be your best time of the year
if you follow this plan:
1. Participate in Lots of Holiday Gatherings
Who knows? You may meet Mr. or Ms. Right at that next party. Or
you may meet someone who knows someone who is right for you. And
you will most certainly have fun, which makes for a good holiday
So how do you find these gatherings? Ask your friends, family,
neighbors and co-workers about upcoming holiday events. Then see
if you can join in on the fun!
Many people volunteer during the holidays, especially very
good-hearted, loving people -- the kind of people with whom you
want to be in a relationship! This is why volunteering is a
great way to meet others while also making yourself feel good
How do you find these opportunities for holiday volunteering?
Look in your local paper and in your phone book for charitable
organizations. Or contact your local United Way for charitable
organizations in your area.
Religion and spirituality can be uplifting and satisfying for
your soul. Thus, the holidays are the perfect time to rejoin or
revisit your place of worship. Plus, you'll find that lots of
other people are making the same choice this season!
If you have trouble meeting your fellow worshipers, take on a
volunteer role. Become a greeter, volunteer on a holiday
committee, or take on some other role that fits your personality
and interests. Being in a role with a job to do makes it easier
to strike up conversation with people -- and possibly find
4. Participate at Work
Are there holiday events going on at your work? If so,
participate! If not, lead a group of people in organizing some
Create opportunities to socialize with as many of your
co-workers as possible, then ask each of them to bring friends
to the events.
5. Send Out a Holiday Letter
Mail a letter about your life to your friends and family, and
maybe even to work clients. Tell them about significant events
and milestones in your year -- and tell them you are single and
looking! Describe your ideal mate and include your picture. Who
knows what the postman will bring back?
6. Step Out of the Ordinary
Participate in activities that you either normally avoid or
don't have time to do. And take time to research brand-new
activities in which you can partake. Step out of your norm and
you are likely to meet new and interesting people.
Some ideas for activities: speed dating, neighborhood
gatherings, singles clubs, dances, group nature hikes, etc. Find
these activities by looking in your local paper, surfing the
Internet, and listening to your local radio stations. Also ask
your friends if they know of any fun group events.
7. Be More Social
Try to attend at least three social occasions a week right now
-- perhaps a party, a singles event, and a work event.
These activities should not just consist of you and your friends
going out. Do things that will expose you to new people. If you
can manage more then three social events a week, you will be
even better off. The more social you are, the more people you
8. Be Happy
You want to shine and be attractive this holiday season. This
can be somewhat achieved with stylish clothes, a good haircut,
and jewelry and makeup for women.
However, it will be better achieved by being happy, which will
make you shine from the inside out. Make yourself happy by
working on your attitude on a daily basis. Focus on being
grateful for the bounty of what you have, even if you feel that
what you have is not enough.
9. Give and Be Generous
Give to friends and loved ones, but also give to strangers and
charity. The more you give, the more joyous and in the holiday
spirit you will feel.
The more joyous you feel, the more attractive you will be to
others. People want to be with joyous, happy people.
10. Make a Significant Emotional Shift
Learn something extraordinary and profound about yourself, your
relationships, or your life. Transform some part of yourself.
Change something so radically that you will have no doubt about
This will help you attract love now and will guarantee that your
relationships will be better in the future. Knowing this, you
will enjoy the holidays more.
Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com
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