Do you have an 'attitude of gratitude'? What is your first inclination in any situation? Is it to find something to appreciate, or something to criticize? Many folks were raised with constant criticism. It seemed that almost nothing they did was right or good enough. If they got a good grade on a report card, the question was "Why didn't you get a better one?" That's one way that parents control their children, or, at least, think they do. If that was part of your past, you may have to make a concerted effort to not pass that along now. Focus on the positive. Catch others doing thing right and say so! You've probably heard the saying, 'When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." What do you do when things do not seem to turn out the way you want them to? Do you look for the learning in the situation, and change your approach? That's the best use of energy on your part. Spend little time on the downside