Give Up to Get Love
Many times when people want to attract their ideal partner, they
often make a list of things to do -- action steps, if you will
-- that will help them meet "the one." They add new activities
into their routine, join dating services, write singles ads.
They may start an exercise program or buy new clothes in an
effort to look better. They let their friends know they're "in
Seldom do people think of giving up something as a way to
attract Mr. or Ms. Right. Well, this is not entirely true.
People may give up such things as smoking or overeating. But the
kind of "giving-up" I'm referring to is about your beliefs,
attitudes and feelings. Giving up something in one of these
three areas is more likely to lead you to your Mr. or Ms. Right.
Here is a list of five things you should consider giving up if
you want to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right:
1. Give up anger at the opposite sex. You can tell when people
have a chip on their shoulders. And yet those who are angry and
disappointed with the opposite sex think their feelings are
undetectable. If you can truly give up the anger, you have a
much better chance of attracting the partner you want.
2. Give up on your past relationships. Most of us can tell when
someone is unavailable or ambivalent about dating because of an
unfinished relationship. If you hope that one of your past
partners will come back, others will be able to tell. Your ideal
partner will surely want a completely available partner. You'll
be hard pressed to attract him or her until you are completely
3. Give up trying to be perfect in order to attract a mate. As
long as you think your body, your pocketbook or your emotional
well-being have to be in perfect shape in order to be loved, you
will remain alone. A state of perfection can seldom be achieved
- we are as human beings are inherently imperfect. You are
peachy just as you are for some lucky person out there.
4. Give up protecting yourself from hurt. Lots of singles devise
all sorts of tests to make sure potential partners won't hurt
them the way they were hurt in the past. This never works
because people know when they are being tested and will either
fake it or fail on purpose. Instead, become the type of person
who is seldom mistreated and who can set strong, clear
5. Give up looking for a relationship. Looking for a
relationship is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Although singles ads and dating services have some success, and
are good for getting lots of dating experiences, most people
still meet their life partner by chance. Your best bet for
finding your Mr. or Ms. Right is to have a wonderful life now.
Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com
(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your
ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship,
or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach
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