Make Room For Happiness
Close your eyes and visualize this. (Ok, bad idea...since you
can't read with your eyes closed). So instead, just clear your
thoughts for a minute and get this picture in your head.
I've been painting my den. All the furniture is crowded together
in the middle of the room. I expertly (yeah right) organized the
space where we could get to the couch to watch TV...except of
course anything we need, which is always seems to be clear
across the room. It's jumbled, and crowded, and out-of-sync.
Nothing's easy, nothing's within reach, and I spend way more
time doing simple things than I normally would.
Sound familiar? That's a very accurate description of Everyday
life for many people. A crowded up, jumbled up, not-in-sync
quadrant of time and space.
Not a pretty picture. Now imagine that you wanted to ADD
something to that space. Maybe you really really wanted a new
couch, or new TV, or even just a new rug. It would only crowd
things that much more. It would only make you more
uncomfortable, and out of sync.
As a Life Coach, people come to me every day wanting to ADD
something to their lives...starting a new business, finding a
relationship, writing a book. But their lives are like my
den...crowded and "unfunctionable". Adding something would only
make them more uncomfortable than they already are.
If you want something new and different in your life, you must
first make ROOM. Make room for happiness by moving OUT the old.
Where do you start to begin to make room for happiness?
1. Time. How do you spend your time? Is it wasted time, or
refreshing time? Are you consciously spending time, or just
letting it happen?
2. Environment. What no longer is working for you in your
environment? Are there unfinished projects that were important
at one time, but no longer intrigue you? When you look around,
does your environment make you feel good?
3. Relationships. What relationships are no longer effective to
your happiness? Do the people in your life support you? Are you
are proud to introduce them to others?
4. Thinking. Do you talk to yourself like your best friend? Or
do you talk to yourself like someone who you despise? Pay
attention to how you treat your mind.
5. Work. Do you feel fulfilled and happy about your work? Or do
you dread going to work, and just count the minutes until
Once you have made the ROOM for success, adding what you really
want will give you pleasure and fulfillment. If you try to add
it on top of what you already have, it will become just another
source of aggravation. First, you must set up your life to
Just as in my den, as I begin to rearrange the sofa and chairs,
the rest of the room became easier and easier. So it will be
with your life.as you change one part, each will be easier and