Five Ways to Refresh Your Relationship
A relationship is like a delicate rose bush. If you care for it,
it will bloom year after year with unsurpassed beauty. If you
don't, you might end up with a dull, lifeless entity that is
struggling to survive.
Below are five ideas to keep your relationship in bloom for
years to come.
If you are single, read these tips with an eye on what you will
want to do in a long-term relationship. If you are in a
relationship, pick one or two of the five ideas and integrate
them into your relationship now. You will be amazed at how many
nice feelings you can create quickly by taking a few simple
1. Make time for your relationship week after week. Take time
for each other every single week. For most couples, it is a good
idea to have a standing date night. Communicate to your friends,
kids, everyone, that this night is reserved especially for the
two of you. Keep the date every week, no matter what. Make it
2. Do fun, pleasurable things together. Sharing fun and pleasure
fosters intimacy. Intimacy is what relationships are all about.
Share good meals, share play time, share jokes and funny movies,
share outdoor activities. What matters most is that the activity
is fun and pleasurable for each of you.
3. Do long-term activities as a couple. Do something long-term
together. Learn about investments, take dance lessons, refinish
the furniture, reach your fitness goals. Do some long-term
activity that will enrich and interest each of you, together. By
doing this you will stay connected to each other and foster
common ground in the relationship. Make sure that this is above
and beyond child rearing.
4. Resolve conflict quickly. It is hard to say you are sorry in
the heat of an argument. In some ways it is easier to have a
fight and go into your separate corners. But unresolved
conflict, or conflict that lingers, fosters long-term hurt and
resentment. It's ok to disagree. But it's important to find a
5. Keep the romance alive. In a long-term relationship, romance
is not something that happens automatically most of the time.
Everyday pressures and time constraints have a tendency to rob
us of spontaneity. Romance needs to be consciously created.
Remember that romance will keep your relationship fresh and
exciting and will keep the two of you close. Take turns creating
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