The First Step to Real Success
Do you want to have success? Do you want to feel a successful
person? Success is what many people are striving for. Success is
deemed to be the ultimate goal to strive towards. That's fine to
a degree, because we all need to head towards something
worthwhile. However, one of the problems I've noticed is that,
although many people say they want success, they can't define it
clearly. Their definition of success is vague.
People tend to measure success in material possessions or
monetary terms. Typically by statements like, "When I'm a
millionaire I'll feel successful" or "When I have a top of the
range luxury car I'll know I've reached success." Success is
often put on a pedestal, at a distance. All too often, before
these goals are reached, they're extended. It's almost as if the
closer they get to success, the further away they move the goal
When we define success, we often compare ourselves to others.
It's too easy to look at another person's perceived success and
think if we had that as well, we would be successful. We strive
for the possessions others have in order to experience success.
If we don't get them, we feel a failure. Or we get these
material possessions and then discover that having them isn't
all it's cracked up to be, so we still don't necessarily feel
successful. When you compare yourself to others you're likely to
be left feeling a failure. When your idea of success comes down
to money or material possessions, you often wake up and realise
there's something missing in your life. Success is about much
more than that.
I'm not suggesting you forget the monetary aspect of success,
because this is certainly a part of it. But it is only a part.
True success encompasses all areas of your life and when you
measure all of them, your success will be more balanced. The
different areas of your life to consider are: Physical
environment Health Friends/Family Work Partner/Relationship
Fun/Recreation Personal Development Finances.
The measurement of your success goes beyond work and business.
When we get too tied up in measuring our success through what we
do for a living, we can come crashing down if we're made
redundant or the business ceases.
Success is often talked about. It's one of those things that
many people are striving for, but fear at the same time. We talk
about people and label them as successful. Yet success as a word
is often without any real meaning for most people. Success is
held up as something to aim for.
If you're chasing other people's versions of success, you're not
likely to experience it yourself. You will only feel and be
successful when you do it your own way. The first step towards
real success is to define success for yourself. The dictionary
defines 'success' as the achievement of something desired,
planned or attempted. Your definition will different from other
people's. Success isn't an end result or a goal; it's a process
and a journey to be enjoyed.
"There is only one success: to be able to spend your life in
your own way" - Christopher Morley
Success needs to be exciting and fill you with enthusiasm, not
put you under undue pressure. Let your definition of success
give you plenty of opportunities to celebrate. Your measure of
success should challenge you, to really bring our your best
rather than allow you to become complacent.
How will you know when you're successful? What is your own
definition of success?