To Do or NOT to Do...That is the Question!
A colleague of mine recently shared that she enjoys
procrastination so much that she has decided to give herself
permission to do it daily. So, once a day she sits down and
plans, schemes, and lists anything that comes to mind --
particularly things she knows she "should" do. She said that "it
feels delicious constructing those plans with full awareness
that I'll probably not carry them out! Who cares? The fun is in
the planning!" She reported that since she started allowing this
frivolity, she gets it out of her system in one sitting, and she
no longer feels the desire to procrastinate. She has cut in half
the amount of time she "wastes" in this manner, which has freed
her to fill the time more productively. She says, "Since it's
going to happen anyway, why not be at choice?"
A few hours after I read my colleague's e-mail about how she
plans to procrastinate, Oprah was on TV interviewing life coach
Martha Beck about how to de-stress your life. During her
interview with Oprah, Martha suggested that instead of making a
To Do list, we make a NOT To Do list.
That same week, I came to the realization that I had over
committed myself when I agreed to be part of a weekly
teleconference meeting over the next eight weeks. As I thought
about the topic of the teleconference, I had to laugh. The
Teleconference topic -- Balancing Between Work and Life - hit a
nerve. I realized I was getting out of balance myself!
How often do you commit to something that you later regret, and
then say to yourself, "Well, I HAVE TO DO IT because I gave my
word!" Then you go on your way, grumbling about how over
committed and stressed out you are. That's what I used to do,
and I am getting better at recognizing when it's in my best
interest to renegotiate commitments I have made. In this case, I
renegotiated my participation in the teleconference, and by
doing so I have freed up several hours a week of my time over
the next eight weeks.
I think it is more than coincidence that I was bombarded with
similar messages from several different sources, all within the
same week. Perhaps the universe was telling me something that I
needed to hear...and just in time for March Forth Day and
National Procrastination Week, which coincide with each other
the first week in March.
Last year at this time I wrote an article titled March
4th...Time to March Forth! located at
http://www.orgcoach.net/newsletter/march2001.html and the year
before that my March article was titled Fear Not! - The
Perfectionist's Credo -- an article about procrastination found
at http://www.orgcoach.net/newsletter/v3issue3.html. To do or
not to do -- to march forth or to procrastinate -- that is the
question. Or IS that the question?
It occurred to me that perhaps the best way to march forth in my
life is to NOT do some things, to just say NO! I think that's
why my colleague enjoys her procrastination exercise so much,
and why Martha Beck has helped so many of her clients reclaim
their lives by creating a NOT To Do list. We're all too busy
being busy! Meanwhile, life is passing us by.
Several years ago I made a poster that says, "Every time I say
YES to someone or something, I am saying NO to someone or
something else." (Remember, I'm a recovering workaholic!) This
poster has helped me make better decisions about what I say YES
and NO to. Given that procrastination means not doing something,
perhaps one of the reasons that many of us procrastinate is
because our lives are so full of things that deserve to be on
our NOT To Do lists. Of course, there are also many other
reasons for procrastinating. What is possible once you
de-clutter your life of activities and commitments that are not
top priority to you? What does your NOT To Do list contain?
Just Say NO! "It's easy to say 'no!' when there's a deeper
'yes!' burning inside." --Stephen Covey As an organizing
consultant, I get calls every week from individuals who suffer
from stress, disharmony, and sometimes dysfunction. People call
me asking for assistance getting organized. I often ask, "What
will getting organized do for you?" These are some of the
replies I hear: "If I didn't waste so much time looking for
things, I could focus on things that are really important that I
just don't have time for now," or "I'd have more time to relax
and do things I enjoy."
Although a good storage or filing system and tickler file will
help my clients find things quickly and remember important
follow-up, there is no organizational system in the world that
will fully address the most common concern that I hear from
nearly every person who calls me-not enough time. Visit
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ickler_file.html to read more about how to set up a tickler file
and to view a photo of the accordion part of the customized
tickler file system.
We all have 168 hours a week. You say that's not enough? What if
you could wave a magic time wand and add an extra day to each
week -- for a total of 192 hours a week. Would that be enough?
I'll bet not! It's the buffet syndrome! Whether we get a smaller
plate or a larger plate, most of us will fill it to the rim at
an all-you-can-eat buffet!
I frequently tell my clients that organizing their time and
environment without first clarifying their priorities is like
rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Since more time will not
solve the problem, the other alternative is to have less stuff
you "gotta do." The NOT To Do List "With so many options and
choices nowadays, you will have to start saying no to some of
the good things in order to accommodate the best things."
How do you determine what goes on your NOT To Do list? Here are
some suggestions: FIRST, get clear on the big picture. What is
most important to you?
* What do you want to do and who do you want to be during your
lifetime? * What legacy do you want to leave behind? How will
your life have made a difference on this Earth?
NEXT, get clear about what you choose to do with your time. What
are YOUR key roles?
* What do you choose to say YES to? What are you most passionate
about? What are you best at doing? * What do you choose to say
NO to? What are you not passionate about that you are currently
involved in? Review your calendar and your regular activities,
and ask yourself if what you give your time to is most important
to you? * How can you best honor your own health and well-being
(physical, mental, spiritual, social needs) * Does your life
feel balanced among all of your key roles? (Example: parent,
spouse, friend, volunteer, professional, hobbyist, etc.) THEN,
lighten the load. Free up your time for what matters most. *
Make lists of the following:
** Commitments you will renegotiate that are not important or
are less important to you.
** Activities that simply don't need to get done - things you
choose to let go of.
** A "Perhaps List" of things you might do or that you plan to
do but choose to defer for later. For more information on a
Perhaps list visit: http://www.orgcoach.net/perhaps.html
** A Delegation list. If you don't enjoy doing it or are not
good at doing it, delegate as much as possible. Visit
http://www.orgcoach.net/delegation.html for tips on delegation.
* Schedule time for the following:
** Activities that will honor your own health and well-being.
** Activities which are important to you. Build in balance as
you consider your key roles. Be aware of your self-talk. This is
not about "have to" or "should." It's about what you choose.
** Time to do weekly planning. Keeping a weekly planning
appointment with yourself will help you stay more focused on the
deeper YES so you can JUST SAY NO to the rest! Visit
http://www.orgcoach.net/sixsteps.html for more help on weekly
** Time for family meetings. One common theme I hear from my
clients is that they want to spend more time with the family.
Work, responsibilities, and over committed schedules seem to be
the biggest obstacle. The Family Meeting (an article you can
view at http://www.orgcoach.net/familymeetings.html ) provides
an important opportunity for communication and planning as a
JUST SAY YES! "The key is not to prioritize what's on your
schedule, but to schedule your priorities." --Stephen Covey If
you're still procrastinating around doing the most important
things you want or choose to do, here are ten tips to help get
1. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Break larger
projects into manageable "bites" and create a reasonable
timeline for you to accomplish these smaller tasks.
2. Remember that each project expands to the time allotted to
it, so set a limit for yourself: I am going to return all my
phone calls in an hour. I will file papers for 30 minutes. I
will spend 15 minutes picking up around the house. Set a timer.
You will be amazed how much you can get done when you focus your
time. My clients report that they are much more efficient and
effective when they set a time limit for specific tasks.
3. Check your self-talk. Do you frequently say, "I gotta...," "I
should...," or "I have to..."? Replace this self-talk with "I
choose to..." and recognize that you are at choice about what
you do. If you don't choose to do it, don't do it!
4. Eat a live toad first thing in the morning, and nothing worse
will happen to you the rest of the day. Tackle that "toad" - the
important task you have been putting off, the one that is
hanging over your head -- because it will lift an immense load
and you will feel much more productive.
5. Train yourself to trim the F.A.T. http://www.orgcoach.net
rimthefat.html. When papers come into your office or home, give
yourself these three choices: File, Act, Toss. (Note that "I'll
just put it here for now" is not one of the choices.)
6. Relieve yourself of the stress caused by all of the clutter
in your home and office by setting up some systems to manage the
paper in your life. A good filing system and a tickler file
system are essential elements. A good system will make a huge
difference in your ability to effectively manage paper and
prevent important activities from slipping through the cracks.
7. Make a weekly appointment with yourself to plan your coming
week. During your planning session, schedule important
activities and tasks so you have a concrete plan for following
through with your intentions.
8. When planning your time, include both urgent (time-sensitive)
and non-urgent but important activities in your plan. An example
of an urgent activity might be a meeting or a project with an
upcoming deadline. A non-urgent activity might be exercise or
relationship-building - something important but not
time-sensitive or deadline-driven.
9. Make appointments with yourself to get administrative work
done, such as paying bills or catching up with your reading.
Treat this time as you would an appointment with someone else.
10. Take 15 minutes at the end of each day to put things away
and look at the calendar for the next day. Gather what you need
ahead of time so you will be prepared for tomorrow.
March 3-9 is National Procrastination Week. If you're ready to
get unstuck and March Forth, I'd be delighted to assist you in
the process. Email me at mailto:email@example.com to request your
complimentary coaching session.