MORE ON GOALSETTING and GOAL ACHIEVING: The technique of
As I mentioned in Part One in controlling our thoughts and
attitudes, visualisation is a great help in setting your
personal goals. Use it as a tool, be persistent, like a yappy
dog biting at your ankles and you'll get there in the end.
(That's a simile, BTW).
American John Kehoe has written extensively on this subject in
various works. He is the one who hibernated in the woods of
Canada or Alaska for five years contemplating the mind and
talking to the trees, like Bonnie Prince Charlie talking to the
plants! I should have been a lumberjack instead of a writer; but
then I can't imagine myself floating down a swollen river and
balancing on a log!
I too am writing in virtual hibernation. Perhaps it's good for
writing by forcing one to focus. Anyway, the creative juices
seem to flow well here in Gisborne, New Zealand. (Incidentally,
the country has produced some great Kiwi writers).
Some more on VISUALISATION...
Work out what your goal is. What you want to become? What sort
of person do you want to be? Picture what changes you want to
make in yourself and in your life...for the better, of course.
Set stepping stones (or sub-goals) as sign posts along the way.
To guide you and ensure that you stay on track. They can be your
short-term or medium term goals, say one month to one year. The
marathon runner doesn't think of the finish line , but, the lamp
post in the distance...or the next drink spot. Thinking of the
big picture often seems impossible, so it can be very
discouraging. Take small steps... and one at a time. You can get
get loads of satisfaction from taking one step at a time.
Attaining sub goals can help you with a more immediate focus and
it rewards you along the way in your pursuit of the grand plan.
Make daily affirmations to yourself to keep yourself positive
and focussed on the way ahead. (Remember, affirmations and self
talk from Chapter Five). Have written goal checks to ensure that
you are on track - on the right path. These are a good aid in
reassessing your performance and how well you are doing on your
chosen path. I've gone so far down my track, if it's the wrong
one it's a bit late to turn back. I'll just visit the soup
kitchens! "What a stuff up"! Seriously (for a change) though,
it's never too late to change direction; look at South Africa
and apartheid, the fall of Communism, Yugoslavia, Israel and
Palestine... Set priorities. It is important to have flexible
goals; they are not set in concrete and can be changed as you
change and develop. Remember changing goals in mid stream
doesn't mean losing ground (or "the plot"). As long as you grow
personally, you are making the most of yourself.
1. Set big goals
2. Make long range goals
3. Make short term and daily goals
4. Goals should be specific
5. Goals should be realistic
6. Luck is not involved in achieving goals
7. Don't make goals to please someone else - they are for you
It's your life and no one else can live it for you. Listen to
your parent's advice; but young adults, you make the decision
about the career you want. Not knowing what I wanted to do after
finishing school (and then university), I followed my father
into insurance, not thinking that I would have to spend half my
working/waking life in that occupation, "dumbo"!
In setting goals we need to allow for our future growth and
development. If you want to grow, you've got to eat your
"veggies" and use your potential to the fullest.
Life is one long journey of self discovery. It is also a great
opportunity for self improvement - to grow day by day, even
though you might have the occasional stumble. If you accept
yourself and are happy just the way you are, that's fine by me
"Plant the right seed to get the right plant" - anon
"Keep your mind on what you want and off what you don't want" -
"You will become as small as your controlling desires; as great
as your dominant aspiration" - James Allen
Now that we've defined and set our goals, lets look at
ACHIEVING them by getting and then staying FOCUSSED...
* HOW TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS:
There are a number of important factors that make people
successful in achieving their personal goals... and I believe
goalsetting is the key ingredient to personal success. What else
determines whether we will achieve our goals? I think the
following attributes are critical:
* A strong belief in oneself and one's ability to succeed
* Good self esteem
* Self confidence
* Self discipline
* A burning desire to achieve your pre-set goals
* A sound strategy with a great deal of thought given to PLANNING
* A desire to give something back to society and invest in
people; ie. to make some contribution to your "little patch" of
the world. This leads into the next one...
* Having worthy goals which benefit one self and others
* A winning focus and a positive attitude. This is very very
* Consistancy and commitment
* The ability to avoid distractions, ie. the ability to FOCUS
* Affirming oneself daily that you are of value to the world
* An ability to take calculated risks. I've taken a few chances
in my time (perhaps too many) ... maybe you have as well.
* An ability to learn from your mistakes and to overcome the
fear of making mistakes
* The ability to handle stress well (I'm not so "hot" on that
* Taking frequent exercise - because a healthy body keeps the
* Taking time out for relaxation
* Self motivation, and most important of all,
* Personal integrity and a sense of ethics. Who says
millionaires and other successful people lack integrity and rip
off gullible people in the street? I for one, definitely don't
believe it. I think quite a few businessmen may be ruthless, but
most of them have high moral codes of behaviour. But most
importantly, they have the "bucks" to improve people's lives in
the community...as long as they are not too stingy.
Remember, it is vital to live a balanced life. So look at your
goals in all areas of your life: material, physical, career,
psychological and most importantly, spiritual. I think it's
terribly important to BELIEVE and have FAITH that things will
work out in the future for you. That BELIEF (either in yourself
or in a Higher Being) will largely determine your attitude...how
happy or unhappy your life will be.