Have you ever laid in bed trying to fall asleep, but your mind keeps spinning with all the things you need to do? Your thoughts just keep ticking?

We wind ourselves up like a motor when we pile on more things than can possibly get done in the time frame have. When we rush to appointments, speed in the car, load up on coffee, smoke on our breaks and make it to places "just in time", it's no wonder some of us can have a hard settling in for the night. Or settling in for the day!

So how can we keep our mind from spinning?

Life and Death?

Most of what is keeping our minds whirling isn't as serious as we make it out to be. Besides keeping yourself physically safe, nothing has to happen. Getting something for the kids or trying to make it to the hairdresser appointment is not life or death. Most of the time if things don't get done when we think they should get done, life stills goes on. When you are out sick, the world doesn't stop revolving. We forget this because we like to stay busy and experience the adrenaline rush.

Take Time Out For Yourself.

I know I say this often, but it is so important to have a time when nothing is planned and you aren't bothered by the kids. Maybe you can get some pampering done, like a massage. Yoga is wonderful because it allows you to be physical, and can act like a busy person's meditation.

Drop Some "To Do's"

It's likely you have a LOT going on. Is there anything you can drop from your to do list? Do you have a committee you are on that you don't like and is just taking up time? Do you dislike housecleaning or gardening? Find a housekeeper or gardener! Get rid of to do's that take up time, but don't add to the quality of your life.

Have a Quiet Evening.

Usually the times I have trouble sleeping are when I have worked too late or have been watching an action packed movie right before bed. The computer screen and the quick-paced movie are too stimulating late at night. Try turning off the computer or TV at least an hour before bed. Relax with some soft music or a book instead.

Leave Work at Work.

I heard a story of a man who felt extremely guilty when he was at work because he wasn't spending time with his family. Then, when he went home he felt guilty that he wasn't working. He was miserable most of the time....until one day he had a flash of insight. He decided he would enjoy work when he was at work and enjoy his family when he was at home. Living in the moment helped him be happier.

Can you experiment with focusing on where you are?

As you can see, just a few simple changes can bring you closer to a calmer and more peaceful mind.

David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy - a global coach training school.

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