Am I Wanted?
Am I wanted? Does anyone need me? Have you ever asked these
questions to yourself? If no, you are a very lucky person. Let
us talk more on this subject.
We all have our self esteem. Along with our self esteem, we also
have a desire that someone should need us. That someone should
want us. A mother is delighted when her children come shouting
to her and ask for food. As the children grow up, they become
self reliant and move away. The mother is no longer wanted by
them for anything. This creates a vacuum in her life, that she
tries to fill with other work , but the satisfaction is not
same. This is equally true for fathers. It is equally true with
office workers who are depended upon for any task. If they feel
that they are not wanted, they not only lose the self esteem,
but also feel very lonely
The desire of others to fulfill their needs by us connects us
with them. It also gives us a great sense of self worth. And
that is very important. A mother wanting love needs her children
to fulfill that. As the children grow up, they can not give that
satisfaction to their mother. They are no longer wanted by their
mother to fulfill her need of love. An innocent young kid can
give that satisfaction, not a young person of say thirty years
of age! In this situation the children also begin getting the
feeling that as they grow up, they are not wanted by their
mother to fulfill her need of love. Earlier in their childhood,
they had the feeling of worth their mother wanted their love. As
they grow up, they realize that they are not wanted by their
mother for that need. They can not fulfill it. This change
creates a feeling of vacuum in children as well.
Feeling of being wanted is very important to give us the sense
of self worth. A husband feels good when he is wanted by his
wife. Take the case of a husband, whose wife does not need him
to fulfill any of her wants. Imagine a situation where she has
enough money of her own, knows how to run home without any help,
can manage without fulfilling physical needs and needs her
husband for nothing. What would be the life of such a husband?
Will he feel good about himself? Surely not. He is just not
wanted.
This is equally true for wives. This is true for all of us. We
all have the inner desire that someone should depend upon us for
a need that can be fulfilled only by us. This is true for
friendships, work, family, and in every relationship. One needs
the self esteem, that comes from the feeling that I am wanted.
Look at this eCard. This e
card talks of that desire. It is making a request - please
let me feel wanted. Please tell me with your actions that I am
wanted. This eCard is specially designed to be sent by a lover
to their beloved. This makes an appeal. Please make me feel
wanted. Probably such ecards need toe designed for every
relationship.
In our day to day life, we get so involved with urgency and work
that we stop noticing the need of others to feel wanted. Kindly
look around yourself and find out if anyone close to you may be
facing this. If you find out that someone is not getting this
satisfaction, you should give that by all the means. You will be
helping that person immensely. You will be helping a person live
with self esteem again.