50 Things Every Single Dad Should Know
"Mama said there'd be days like this," are strikingly honest
lyrics that should be the introduction to the single dad's
national anthem. What mama didn't say is that the days would
sometimes go on, and on, and on, and on. It's no secret that
being a single parent is a tough job, and being a single mom is
next to impossible, but being a single dad, now that is a death
defying feat.
Single dads are not suppose to exits, it's a sort of oxymoron;
like marital bliss. Fortunately, any dad who takes on the role
of single parent "by choice" should receive an Oscar; okay at
least a Golden Globe. The knowledge that comes naturally to
women does not exist in the pronominal character of a man.
There is however, basic knowledge that fathers should know if
they find themselves under the category of single father.
Note: This list is not all inclusive and you are welcome to add
your own words of wisdom, just remember like all families,
single or not, your children reflect the type of home they come
from, so take pride dad, take pride!
1. Babies are a lot tougher than you think, so be gentle.
2. Toddlers will not listen to you, pick your battles.
3. When feeding children 0 to 6 years of age, keep it simple,
real simple.
4. Little children have accidents, get over it, learn to clean
it up and wait on the next oops...it will happen.
5. Never leave the house without sending everyone to the
bathroom first.
6. Always have a first aid kit. Keep one in the house, in the
car and at your place of employment.
7. Child proof your home, every inch.
8. Never leave small children alone in the bath tub.
9. Never leave older children to supervise small children alone
in the bath tub.
10. When tending to your children, allow the phone or cell phone
to ring, the voice mail will pick up the call. Who ever it is,
they can wait. Your children are a priority.
11. Play with your children.
12. Sing with your children. (Sing anyway)
13. Entertain your children. Act silly, tell jokes, have fun
with your children. 14. Take pride in how your children look.
Clean, well fitting, color coordinated clothing is key. Keep it
simple. (Resale is okay...honest)
15. Teach your children that cleanliness is next to....well, you
know....BATHE from head to toe
16. Some small children need to use deodorant
17. Talk to your mother, female friend, or female physician
about female hygiene concerns
18. Talk to your children about sex, drugs, video games, porn
sites and all other issues covered in the newspaper and on
television, before they hear it or learn of it outside their home
19. Keep a family photo album
20. Take photos of special events and everyday activities
21. Watch your children play, study, and interact with one
another, learn about their personality
22. Don't ever, ever be afraid to tell your children "NO"...Just
say "NO" (Give a short explanation, but don't renege.
23. Organize your family life, a lack of structure is stressful
to you and your children (it's okay to have a schedule...up at 7
a.m., dinner at 6:30 p.m. lights out at 8 p.m.) You know.
24. Show and tell your children how to behave, set the example
25. "I hate you," and "I wish you were dead" are common
expressions used by all children and teens at least once in
their life, expect to hear it
26. Your children are human, they will get angry. Allow a cool
down period and then talk, listen, talk, listen, talk, listen,
listen, listen.
27. Tweens (children 10-14) are all knowing; always go behind
them and check everything they say and do
28. Teenagers are all knowing and all doing, always go behind
them, under them, around, them and through them, checking
everything they say and do
29. Give your children chores; there are no free lunches in life
30. Insist your teenagers work; it builds character and prepares
them for the reality of life
31. Never buy your child a car or any expensive item; they will
care for it better if they have invested in it 100%
32. Never get your child a cell phone unless they can pay for it
themselves. If you must, use a phone that allows limited calling
i.e. a Firefly (I am not plugging this, it's just an example) if
you must provide a method of communicating with your child
33. Do not buy your child anything they want, they will not
respect you or appreciate the purchase
34. Tell your daughters the truth about how boys really think
35. Encourage your children to celebrate life and be happy
36. Encourage your children to understand the mind/body
connection and take care of both
37. Eat health foods
38. Plant a garden with your children
39. Provide opportunities for your children to succeed, sports,
board games, cooking
40. Praise your children from being good, loving caring people
when they display those behaviors
41. Expose your children to the possibilities in life, encourage
them to dream big dreams
42. Never be jealous of your children
43. Love your children unconditionally, there will be times when
this is difficult, or impossible; just do it
44. Learn to let go of your children and let them fail, it
really does build character
45. Learn to wait before helping your children out of financial
difficulty. Allow them to figure out the solution for themselves
46. Know that children are particularly emotionally dependent on
single parents
47. Know that single parents are particularly emotionally
dependent on their children
48. Learn to live and love apart
49. Appreciate all the ups and downs of raising your children
and know you did the best you could and that was alright.
50. Celebrate a job well done!