Should Your Baby Be Allowed To Cry?
A baby's cry can actually be nerve wrecking for a parent and a
lot of you may be beside yourself because you are not sure of
what to do about it. Are you by chance among these parents who
feel so bad every time your baby starts to cry and you can't
help but to pick them up each time they utter the smallest cry?
Well, no need to worry because you are not alone in doing so.
The question is; how healthy is this for your baby?
Not very many parents can help themselves when their newborn
baby is crying, they just have to go there and pick them up if
for nothing else to make sure the baby is ok. This is all and
fine but in the long run, is this a wise thing to do or should
your baby be allowed to cry a little bit without you having to
rush to its side and pick him/her up? The answer to this can be
justified from both sides but what should you do?
You might have heard this before; "wow, that kid sure got his
parents trained". This saying does not come from nowhere,
because already when they are babies they are very good at
getting what they want and it all start with crying their way
into getting what they want. Some babies may not like to lie
down and they learn very quickly that if they cry long and hard
enough someone will pick them up. Oh yes, they know.
To pick your baby up just to make them feel loved and secure is
a good thing because it gives the child a sense of security but
on the other hand if you start giving in to the baby's every
little cry you might soon find that he or she will not be
satisfied anywhere else than in your arms. This can turn out to
be an extremely difficult position to find yourself in, unable
to do anything without the baby in your arms.
At times it can therefore actually be good to let the child cry
for a while without picking him up. It will teach your baby that
you will not give into all he wants and as long as the baby is
dry, fed, and warm enough there is no reason why he or she can
not be allowed to cry for some time. Believe it or not, you will
soon find that your baby will not cry as much and if you have
toys or noise in the bed or playpen, the baby will turn its
attention to this instead of trying to get your attention at all
times.
So for the question if you should allow your baby to cry for a
while you might be able to make up your mind by seeing what it
can do for the both of you. There is always a middle ground of
what is healthy and what is not. As long as you take the time to
give your child lots of love and attention there is no reason
your baby should not be able to cry for a while if you have
things to do. Babies, as well as you, are capable of
entertaining themselves for a little while as long as you have
things for them to keep them entertained.