Holiday Self-care Guide
Come this time of year, and stress, stress, stress abounds. Talk
about how we as mommies try to be perfect in every little thing.
We just about run ourselves ragged trying to make sure all the
decorations are up right after Thanksgiving, our Christmas or
Hanukkah shopping is done by March, and every present is wrapped
by September. Seriously. When I was a teacher, one of my fellow
teachers had all her Christmas shopping done AND wrapped by
August before the new school year started. Insane, I thought.
For me, that just takes all the fun out of Christmas. My family
has a tradition of going to the mall the day after Thanksgiving
(crazy, isn't it?!). We don't do any shopping, but it's our way
to immerse ourselves in the holiday spirit. We take a relaxed
view of the holiday season and enjoy being caught up in it,
while at the same time not being part of the frenzy. (We do have
to put our "patient hats" on when trying to find a parking spot,
though!)
I wasn't always this relaxed.
As you may or may not know, I'm the owner of a successful
business, Virtual Angel, in which I provide support to other
small business owners. For the most part, it's just me working
with my clients (I do have a couple of assistants, but they
mainly support me and my business, like making sure this
fabulous newsletter gets out on time!). So, if I'm not working
and getting things done for my clients, it just doesn't get
done, and I don't get paid. Vacations can be tough - mentally
and budget-wise.
Two years ago, I worked right up until Christmas Eve. Everything
was an item on my to-do list, even the stuff that was supposed
to be fun. Bake cookies for Santa ("When am I going to do
that?"), go to our local state park to see their gorgeous
display of holiday lights ("When will we back? I have stuff do
finish."), arranging trips to relatives on both sides of the
family ("I wish I didn't get motion sick in the car; I could get
so much work done!"), and so on.
By the time Christmas Day rolled around, I was heart-sick. I had
missed out on the whole point of the holiday season. I hadn't
enjoyed it, and I'd lost sight of what was most important to me
- enjoying my family and friends during this very special time.
Instead, I had focused so much on work and all the stuff to do,
that I hadn't enjoyed Christmas at all.
Never again, I vowed! I made plans that day to take the two
weeks off before Christmas next year. And I did. Now, in 2005,
I've done it again, and I'm absent from my business for two
weeks.
It seems to make sense to me, but I've found that I've spent the
last two weeks explaining to colleagues and other business
owners this concept of a V-A-C-A-T-I-O-N. The whole idea seems
to be foreign to most people.
Maybe it's the fact that I'm taking a whole two weeks off. Or
the fact that I'm not going anywhere (except for that requisite
2-day trip to Pennsylvania to visit family); I just plan on
being home. It's almost as if I have to have a reason to go on
vacation. Nope, not for me. Well, actually, I guess I do have a
reason - to take care of me.
Now, here's the real clincher - I'm taking this time off while
my girls are still in school! Sure, I could take the week
between Christmas and New Year's off while they're home from
school, but I decided not to. Instead, I'll take the two weeks
off before Christmas, and revel in self-care for Dawn.
Never fear; I'll have plenty of quality time with my girls while
they're home on winter break. I'll work a shorter day than
normal, and as most of my clients will be on their on holiday
breaks, my work days will be pretty easy and light.
Why aren't I wracked with Mommy Guilt (more to come on Mommy
Guilt in the future) that I'm not taking vacation while my kids
will be home? Because I know I'm going to be a better mommy if
I'm happy and whole. Those two weeks are going to be a period of
renewal and rejuvenation for me. What better gift for my girls
than to come home to a Mommy who's happy, stress-free, relaxed,
and ready to play?
(One of the absolute must's for me to do while I'm on vacation?
Have warm, chocolate-chip cookies waiting for my girls when they
come home from school during my vacation. THAT'S why I'm doing
this - to provide that fun holiday feeling for my girls, instead
of me being all wrapped up in work.)
Happy holidays, and may you give your own family the gift of a
happy, fulfilled, relaxed YOU!
Copyright 2005 Dawn Goldberg. You are welcome to use this
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it remains complete and unaltered (including the "about the
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