Division of Labor
Dividing up household chores is a great way to get everyday
household tasks in less time and with less complaints.
It's 5:00 p.m. and I've just walked in the door. I'm tired, the
living room's a mess, and the kitchen sink is full of last
night's dinner dishes. So whose turn is it to do the dishes
anyway? My husband did them last...his tolerance for dirty
dishes is much lower than mine when we end up in a standoff to
see who can stand the dirty dishes the longest. I always win.
I don't really mind doing the dishes, but I do take exception to
doing the dishes, cooking dinner, cleaning up the living room,
and making sure the laundry's started. Especially after a 9-hour
day at work. So what's the answer? Blackmail, bribery,
intimidation? Why not work out a solution that benefits the
whole family and encourages everyone to work together?
If your children receive an weekly allowance, you should make
them work for it, and from a very young age. I started giving my
daughter an allowance before she was told she had to participate
in the household chores (besides cleaning her room), and you can
only imagine her reaction when all the sudden she had to work
for it.
How you determine the division of labor in your home depends on
how many children you have, and how much work you want them to
actually do. We only have once child, so I didn't figure it was
fair to make her do the majority of the household chores. If we
had more children who were old enough to help out around the
house, they would definitely have a larger share of the
workload. So in our case we chose a fairly equitable
distribution: one person does the dishes and mops the kitchen
floor, one person picks up the living room, dusts, and vacuums,
and one person does the laundry. Our schedules rotate on a
weekly basis. That way everyone has to do each job, but only
every 3 weeks. You wouldn't believe how much it improves your
attitude knowing you don't have to do the dishes for 2 weeks.
It's suddenly no big deal!
This arrangement has worked very well for us. My husband and I
just wanted the house picked up but don't want to feel like one
of us is doing all of the work, and our daughter doesn't want to
lose her allowance. Everyone's happy. There are a lot of other
household chores not covered in our agreement, but we chose to
tackle the big, everyday, most overwhelming chores that no one
ever wanted to take responsibility for. I usually end up
cleaning the bathrooms, cleaning out the litterbox, etc., but it
doesn't really bother me. My husband definitely does his share.
He insists on vacuuming under the chairs and couches, and that's
fine with me. I'll let him if it makes him happy.