Simple Teenage Discipline
I don't mean teenage discipline is simple by no means. There are
ways to deal with teenagers in a more calm way.
A Dyfus social worker visited a person I know and don't want to
put her name on a Blog. I thought it was fantastic information.
This information can probably be used for 8-18 years of age
depending on how well they process information.
When you want your child to say clean, do their homework or
whatever chores you have for them, WRITE THEM DOWN.
That might sound simple but it works.
If on Saturday, they are supposed to clean certain areas of the
house, just make sure you post it on a board and have them check
it off when they are done. If they do what they are supposed to
do without arguing, then you can reward them with either an
allowance, going over a friends house, any kind of positive
reward.
If they do not do this, they don't get their reward PERIOD. This
is important because they will try your limits and if they
aggravate you enough and then you let me do what they want, then
you are just telling them, you don't have to do this if you
aggravate me enough and I will let you do what you want anyway.
Don't argue, just walk away and that is it. You can repeat this
3 times. This is what you need to do and be specific or just
refer them to the board where you have what you want posted.
Then just walk away. Don't argue because as parents we lose and
just get aggravated.
Remember, these are just chores. Don't be giving them everything
to do. We are the parents and children still need to be
children. On the weekend they need a break just like we do. So
they are there to help us, not be our slaves.
Stress ages us; laughing and smiling turns back time.