Teenage Discipline - Choose Your Fights Wisely
Pick Your Fights With Your Teenager Wisely
I know as a single parent it is hard raising a girl or a boy.
I noticed throughout my son's teenage life, his emotions were
different than mine. There is a difference between girls and
boy. The book that came out I think in the 1980's - Men are from
Mars and Women are from Venus really made sense. If you haven't
read that book, you could get the book or tapes and just get an
idea of how we are different.
For me, I don't fight very often with my son. He is more mellow
than I am. What we do argue about is cleaning. He just hates
cleaning but I don't like it either. Who does? So what I try to
do is talk with him the day before to let him know what we need
to do. Again, you can write down what chores need to be done.
So if we discuss the cleaning aspect beforehand, we can deal
with it when the time comes.
Another thing is sometimes there are things that your son or
daughter may do that you may not agree with. This is the time
you need to figure out if this is worth fighting about. If your
child for one night wants to stay up later because there is a
program they are looking forward to, then is it worth to argue
about or just let them watch the program?
Now I know my sister and her daughter are always fighting with
each other. If her daughter says something in a nasty way, my
sister jumps on her and argues back. Someone has to give in. You
are the mother and she is the child.
Don't argue back and forth if there is not going to be an end
result. They do alot of name calling which has no purpose except
to hurt each other. Sometimes they both look like 5 year old
kids arguing back and forth.
Someone has to give in and I feel the mother should be the
example to give in and just ignore the behavior. How else if
your child going to learn giving in is okay.
If my son and me have differences, sometimes he gives in and
most of the time I do. The quicker you make up with your child,
the more time you can love each other and spend time with each.
If I am aggravated with my son and I have given in but I am
still aggravated, I pray to GOD that I feel the love in my heart
again for him. And all the time I do feel the love again almost
instantly.
If what you are arguing about is not worth anything, then drop
it immediately and just spend quality time with them. Your
children will not be with you forever. They grow up and leave.