"Uncontested Divorce; How Thinking About An Uncontested Divorce
Figures Into Your Decision About Div
An uncontested divorce is the most common type of divorce. An
uncontested divorce is a divorce that occurs when there are no
disagreements between spouses over divorce related issues like
custody, finances, living arrangements, spousal support, child
support, etc. An uncontested divorce can be an easy way for
people to get divorced without the hassles of a legal struggle
and undue wear and tear on emotions.
But, you may not be ready to seriously consider uncontested
divorce if you're just thinking about it.
Thinking about an uncontested divorce can mean a variety of
things from a psychological perspective...it could mean that you
are really on the brink of divorce.
It could also mean that you're feeling frustrated and just want
to end things as fast and quietly as possible. If this is the
case, you may want to make sure that you aren't just being lazy
and you should examine your reasons for divorce first before you
go any further.
"Does it mean I am really ready for divorce just because I am
starting to think about an uncontested divorce?"
Maybe, maybe not.
Here's a few things you might want to think about before going
onto next steps with regards to an uncontested divorce, just to
make sure that you're really ready to go through with it.
Uncontested divorce situation 1: You're thinking about an
uncontested divorce because you want out but you aren't sure if
your spouse is ready to call it quits.
This can be tough if you aren't careful. The main point of an
uncontested divorce is to have both parties agree on things. If
your spouse doesn't even know that you're thinking about getting
a divorce, mentioning an uncontested divorce may result in an
explosive discussion.
Uncontested divorce situation 2: You've both agreed that you'd
like a divorce, but haven't really clearly defined why, you just
know you both feel ending the marriage is best.
Maybe there's a chance to make your marriage work! Don't be too
hasty. If you can't clearly define why you and your spouse want
to end your marriage, you're acting on emotion rather than a
healthy combination of emotion and logic. Sit down, think it
through and have a detailed discussion around all of the
details.
But, be careful...this can be a volatile situation if you
haven't talked everything through and mutually agreed on how
you'll actually implement your divorce decision to have an
uncontested divorce.
If one of you is more demonstrative than the other or is usually
the person who drives the decisions, that sense of control may
carry over into the discussion of the terms of the uncontested
divorce.
Uncontested divorce situation 3: You both agreed that you'd like
a divorce (and you both know why), and you've successfully
talked about and agreed on all of the details regarding the
uncontested divorce.
Although it can be a sad situation most of the time, sometimes a
divorce is actually a good thing unfortunately. If you and your
spouse have amicably decided to part ways and can continue on as
responsible happy adults, then an uncontested divorce can be an
easy way to sever the relationship and all legal obligations.
This is the best situation to be in if you're looking for an
uncontested divorce...it should be simple to finish from this
point.
Lots of people think about uncontested divorces and never go
through with getting one because they actually work things
out...and that's a great thing! And, some people think they want
an uncontested divorce but haven't agreed on the details and
terms, they're just looking for the fastest way to end the
marriage. If this is the case, the relationship can turn from
being amicable (and each party thinking they want a divorce) to
being nasty and a resulting tug of war ensues with each person
striving to get what they feel they deserve out of the
divorce...and this can lead to a drawn out negotiation which
certainly is not an uncontested divorce.
Be smart when you're considering an uncontested divorce...make
sure that you're really ready to go through with it. Don't let
the term 'uncontested' fool you, an attorney can ethically and
legally on represent one of the married parties. But, if you and
your spouse can truly be amicable and truthful, an uncontested
divorce can be easy.