Too Late?
Too Late?
Why is it that we tend to value relationships more once they've
ended? Is it simply human nature to take for granted the smile
of someone close, the friendship of a relative, the concern of a
neighbour? In the moment, we think that these people will be
around forever. Most of us never stop to imagine all those who
have a profound impact on our lives.
It's so easy to justify this casual attitude by saying we are
too busy, too tired, too involved with work, too concerned about
money, and the list of excuses goes on and on. So enjoying a
friendship may be put off for one day, and then another. Before
long, feelings have faded, and there is less incentive to get
together. Almost relegated to a chore now, precious moments
become something to endure.
Usually, something dramatic must happen to change this apathy
and pull one out of a rut. Perhaps it's something shocking, like
a death, a divorce, sudden illness, an accident -- something
stunning to force taking notice. Then comes the guilt, the
re-assessment of feelings, the sadness of loss. And the worst of
all -- knowing how unnecessary and perhaps preventable the
situation could have been.
We long to have those precious moments once again, to share and
express our feelings. Instead of waiting for an excuse, why not
get out of the rut, take the initiative, and spend quality time
with the people you value. Let then know how really important
they are.