Making the Connection
Making the Connection
Have you ever had the experience of meeting someone, and after a
few minutes of conversation, settled into the feeling of having
known that person all you life? This sort of incident - an
immediately strong emotional connection - is quite rare. It's
happened to me on two occasions, and in both cases, resulted in
long-term friendships.
Why is there an instant connection with some people and not
others? It seems that it is easier to relate to people who are
open to wanting to get to know another. There is a certain
chemistry that simply happens when individuals are tuned into
each other. Both experience it simultaneously.
There is also a school of thought that says we are destined to
have certain people in our lives. Perhaps that's why some
interactions don't seem to make a lot of sense. When we try to
force relationships that shouldn't happen, the end result is
usually trouble.
No where has this been more obvious than on the new "reality
television" shows. It is not realistic to place people in an
artificial environment and expect them to instantly bond on an
intimate level. These programs may have found such a large
audience because the premise of what they are doing is so
peculiar.
People learn to relate on different levels. There are times when
relationships are formed without even seeing the other person.
Pen pals and telephone conversations, while not usually an
instant connection, can quickly develop into so much more.
Physical components don't get in the way, and true personalities
can emerge.
On the other hand, many attractions start out as purely
physical. In order to endure, they must transcend beyond this
level, because images change as we age. Special friendships go
beyond the superficial to the essence of the people we are.