Picking Up The Pieces
"My feelings have changed," my boyfriend of five years told me
during one of our nightly seven o'clock phone calls. "I don't
think we should see each other anymore." His words hit me,
probably worse than if he had just punched me in the stomach.
The pain of being physically hit would eventually subside, but
the emotional pain that his words had left would be a battle
wound I would carry with me from relationship to relationship
until it finally healed. I have had four steady boyfriends in my
life. Two of which I dumped, and two of which I was dumped by.
In my experience, it is much worse being dumped than doing the
dumping. When you are dumped, you feel like you are being
rejected, that you were somehow not good enough. Wen I was
freelance writing, evitably I would be rejected either because
the magazine didn't have enough room or because they did a
similar article. But I read an article that said, "Every article
has a home. And when you receive a rejection letter, it is just
saying that your article lives at a different address." The same
is true with relationship. God has a person in mind for each of
us, so when we are dumped by one person, we can just cross that
one of our list. The one God has for us is still out there. All
we have to do is find him or her. What's the old saying? You
have to kiss a lot of toads before you find a prince. After I
was dumped, I felt numb. Then the anger set in. My anger was
building, and I was afraid if it wasn