The Secret To Success In Courtship And Marriage, Sex And
Happiness (Part 5)
Those who are very young
when they marry have three strikes against them. --PROFESSOR
MARCIA LASSWELL.
Are you ready for marriage? Hold your answer until you know
whether you are qualified to go into it. First know that there
is nothing like trial marriage. When God instituted the first
marriage between our first parents, Adam and Eve in the garden
of Eden, he did not tell them to try it first, and dump it
afterward. It was for life; and nothing would break it excerpt
adultery, or perhaps death. (Genesis 2: 18, 23, 24; Matthew 19:
3 9) So know that this union is for life, and that you will
even go through tribulations in course of the marriage. -- 1
Corinthians 7: 28.
Now how do you answer the following questions:
Do I have great expectations?
That is the first major problem. Because you are not going to
see that wonderland that you expected after the honeymoon. The
scales will fall from your eyes. Consider these life experiences.
We thought that we could come and go, do as we pleased, . . .
but it isnt that way.
Many teenagers get married to play house. . . . but thats not
the way it is.
After I got married I found out that the great thrill of sex
wears off very soon and then we started having real problems.
So do not have great romantic expectations. Childhood marriages
-- physical immaturity, may blur your vision and understanding
of married life.
Am I ready for my roles?
Some people enter marriage without even knowing their roles in
the family. The husband fails to provide material support, and
the wife neglects her housekeeping role.
Married men are reported to be still hanging out late at night,
drinking with friends, away from their wives. Even those who
work hard to maintain the family are frustrated. This is hard
work said one. Will I ever get some relief?
Can I solve money problems?
This is the greatest cause of marital problems. Some can not
provide money to support the family, and where money is
available, the problem is overspending. In the end, families
have become heavily indebted, while others pack to live with
their parents. In extreme cases, divorce becomes the solution.
Do I have a compatible mate?
Being compatible does not mean that you and your partner must
agree on everything under the sun. Or that your mate should be
able to play baseball since you are a baseball star. No.
But if you are miles apart on almost everything -- work,
recreation, attitude, and beliefs, you should know that you are
not equally matched.
Consider one woman who thought that her marriage must work
because her partner was so handsome, so strong, such a good
athlete and very popular. Was she being realistic? No. She was
dreaming of Shangri-La, or building castles in the air, as they
say. The marriage collapsed!
Have I thoroughly examined myself?
So ask yourself if you are the type that can make vows and keep
them. Ask if your goals in life will affect your marriage. Find
out if you can support or manage a household. Check to see if
you are mature to handle trials that will surface later in the
marriage.
If your answers are positive, if you think that you have the
physical, mental and spiritual maturity to go into marriage,
then ask yourself this question; what are the keys to family
happiness? Do you know them?
Now, lets see.
(To be continued)
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