52 Free Things to Do with Your Partner on Date Night
One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is
spending quality time with each other. In this day of the
information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve
out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with
long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting
them around to their extracurricular activities, getting dinner,
cleaning up and going through the bedtime routine, what time is
left?
Unless you orchestrate the time for your relationship, other
less important things will crowd in and take what precious
little time you do have. Pick a night that will be "date night"
with your partner and make a game out of being as creative as
you can be. Try to see how many things you can do without
spending money.
To get you started, I've come up with some suggestions to help
you for the next year. What follows are 52 ideas for how to
spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free
to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your
particular relationship and circumstances.
WINTER
1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations. 2. Play
cards---perhaps strip poker. 3. Watch a movie together. 4. Go
outside and have a snowball fight. 5. Get some finger paints and
create your own body art with each other as your canvass. 6. Go
sleigh riding. 7. Go ice skating. 8. Work out or exercise
together. 9. Stage your own improvisation show. 10. Sing to each
other. 11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your
memories together. 12. Play a board game---perhaps chess,
Scrabble or Twister. 13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read
for hours.
SPRING
14. Work on a remodeling project together. 15. Plan and complete
a yard work project together. 16. Do the spring cleaning
together---room by room. When done, reward yourself by making
love in the room you've cleaned. 17. Put on old clothes and mud
wrestle after some drenching rain. 18. Give each other a
massage. 19. Play catch---football, baseball, softball or
Frisbee. 20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car of your
dreams. 21. Shoot basketball together. 22. Dance together. 23.
Take a shower together and wash each other---everywhere. 24.
Take a free adult education class together. 25. Go to a mall and
have a contest to see which one of you can get the most free
samples. 26. Go rollerblading or bike riding.
SUMMER
27. Build a campfire and roast marshmallows. 28. Go swimming or
skinny dipping. 29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure. 30.
Go somewhere crowded to people watch. 31. Go to a free outdoor
event, perhaps a concert. 32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch
the clouds or stars. 33. Go on a picnic. 34. Watch a fireworks
display. 35. Be creative and engage in sexual role plays. Be
anyone you'd like to be for the night who is also exciting for
your partner. 36. Sit by the water somewhere. 37. Do a prolonged
strip tease for each other. 38. Have a water balloon fight. 39.
Sit outside and read poetry to each other.
FALL
40. Go for a drive together. 41. Go window shopping. 42.
Incorporate food into your love making---chocolate syrup,
whipped cream, fondue, strawberries---anything you and your
partner enjoy. 43. Call or write to someone you haven't had
contact with in a while. 44. Cook something together. 45. Spend
an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things
you have done, plans you have for the future, important people
in your lives or current events. 46. Take a bubble bath
together. 47. Go to a free movie or museum. 48. Take a drive and
find the potential in old houses and their properties. 49.
Create an imaginary story together---either orally or in written
form. 50. Take turns being each other's genie in a bottle by
fulfilling your partner's every wish and fantasy. 51. Play in
the fallen leaves. 52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that
ends in your bed.
Now you have 52 suggestions for things to do with your partner
for every week of the year divided by season. Certainly you
don't have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own
or to repeat your favorites as often as you'd like.
The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is
to keep your relationship alive by making time together a
priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple
that you can both enjoy. If you have vastly different interests
then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each
agree to happily participate in the activity chosen by the one
whose turn it is that week.
As long as you make a habit of making your relationship a
priority and allocating time each week for rejuvenation of the
feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you stand a
good chance of staying together for the long haul.
Please don't let insidious boredom enter into your relationship
through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we
are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other.
You know what I mean---the job, the kids, our friend in crisis,
etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time
you've set aside for each other.
Other than natural disasters, threat of death or major crises,
do not allow your time together to be invaded by any outside
forces. Make sure to create opportunities for you to do things
together without outside influence. With more than 50% of
today's marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment
in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose
and everything to gain. What's stopping you? Start today.