How to Feel up When the Holidays Get You Down
By Carol Tuttle, Master Energy Therapist and the author of the
best-selling book, Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook
for Thriving in the 21st Century
It should be the happiest time of the year. But oddly enough,
for a lot of people, holidays are when they feel their worst.
With about 19 million Americans suffering from depression, and
with prescriptions for drugs to treat the disorder having
doubled over the last 10 years alone, the problem is only
growing without real healthy answers from the medical community.
The reason is that most people don't have the first clue about
what's really giving us the blues.
Why is it so common for the holidays to make otherwise happy
people depressed?
Here are three reasons you can get emotionally down during the
holidays:
The holidays bring up a lot of emotional baggage from our
childhood. If you have unresolved issues about your family the
closer family contact during this time of year can stir these
feelings up.Maybe your unresolved issues are keeping you
estranged from your family, which stirs up feelings of loss,
anger, and grief.
With the increased spending during the holidays, stressing over
money can get you down.Increased spending can rock the boat in
your relationships causing more contention.
If you have issues with food, you are faced with more temptation
to blow your diet, and the thought of your overweight status is
nagging you even more than ever.
Why do most people go through life never identifying the true
source of their feelings?
Most of the year we can stay busy enough with the daily stresses
of life that we tend to ignore the deeper feelings we carry,
only to have them surface during the holiday season.
As children, we were not encouraged to share our feelings, we
were told to put on a happy face and ignore how we really
felt.These unacknowledged, buried emotions are feelings within
us that are very much alive and active.They are the cause of
many diseases and disharmonies in the body.
What are the three things anyone can do today to heal the
holiday blues?
First, acknowledge that you feel blue or down.Place your
hand on your chest, this is a major energy center called your
heart chakra, and repeat the following three times, "Even though
I feel down and blue I deeply love and accept myself."(For more
information on the Chakras pick up a copy of my Chakra Home
Study Course, Becoming a Vibrant Human Being: Living, Loving,
and Creating from Your Chakras.)
Accepting yourself in this downer state is powerfully healing.It
will honor your feelings and in that honoring allow the
emotional energy to begin to release.
Second, once you have acknowledged how you feel, take some
time to write out how you might have felt as a child.The
following is an easy and effective technique to help you get to
those deeper feelings.
A Letter to Yourself: Take your dominant hand and write a letter
to your younger self that never got to share their feelings
honestly.At the top of a piece of paper write "Dear Little (your
name goes here)," for example if I were writing to me I would
write "Dear Little Carol." On the next line write an invitation
to your younger self to share their feelings, for example, "Tell
me how you are feeling, what was it like to be you?"
Now take your pen or pencil and place it in your non-dominant
hand and write "Dear Big (your name goes here),"and start
writing and see what comes out.
Writing with your non-dominant hand mimics a child's handwriting
and taps into your deeper mind where the emotions are hiding.
Write back to your younger self with statements of acceptance
and validation, honoring that is how you might have felt as a
child.
Third, forgive yourself and others for how you feel.Do this
by placing your hand on your chest (your heart chakra again)
while repeating statements like:
"I forgive myself for feeling down and blue this time of year, I
am doing the best I know how."
"I forgive my younger self for feeling powerless and unheard,
they were doing the best they knew how."
"I forgive my mom and dad, they did the best they knew how with
the knowledge and resources they had."
Forgiveness is an important step in releasing downer
feelings.Even if you are not ready to completely feel
forgiveness, doing this process plants seeds that propel you
toward more wellness and happiness.
Slow down this holiday season.Take time each day to reflect on
the good and the important that is in your life.
Reach out to someone in your family that you would not likely
reach out to.Spend less money and give more gifts of service.Put
food in its proper perspective, a resource to assist you in
maintaining good health and not a substitute for fulfillment.
Tell yourself you are feeling better and better each day and you
probably will.
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youwill learn the messages you needed to hear as a child and how
to give yourself these messages so you are emotionally
balanced.
Learn powerful techniques to heal the emotional issues from your
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and DVDs that are highly recommended by Dr. Mercola.
Dr. Mercola's Comment:Earlier this year I had an opportunity to
attend a three-day Internetseminar with Carol and had a chance
to get to know her. Although I enjoyed the seminar, the
highlight was the opportunity to get to know Carol.
Without a doubt energy psychology is one of the greatest tools I
have ever encountered in the healing modalities and EFT is an
amazing application of this discipline. Carol happens to be one
of the most gifted EFT clinicians I know of.
If you want to apply some of the principles Carol discusses
in the above article and learn powerful healing techniques to
release the emotional issues that are keeping you from losing
the weight you willwantto pick up Carol's best-selling Audio CD
Clear Your Childhood Issues. You can also reviewCarol's other
life-changing books, CDs and DVDs thatI highly recommended.
Carolstopped seeing clients awhile ago so she can concentrate on
sharing her message over the Internet.However, there was such a
demand for her services that shedecided to limit her patient
load andincrease her fees to $10,000 for a series
ofcomprehensive individual consultations; even at thoserates she
has more clients than she can handle.
InOctober Iinvited Carol to spend some time at my center to
teach my staff some of her principles and we had a great time
and decided that we will offer a joint seminar in Chicago on
April 6, 7 and 8. I want to tell you that now as by then it will
have been nearly two years since I have held a major event. The
last one was also in Chicago in June 2004.
It was an EFT event with Gary Craig. We sold out the 550 seats
in a few days and had a waiting list of over 500 people who
could not attend.
Well, this event should be far better than the one last year, as
we have some incredible programs that will absolutely amaze you
at the benefits you will receive.
Can't tell you much more about it now, but I do want to forewarn
you to mark you calendars now for next April 6-8 and plan on
being in Chicago for an event you will remember the rest of your
life.