Choosing Your Cancer Caregiver & Tips for Cancer Caregivers;
Choosing Your Cancer Caregiver & Tips for Cancer Caregivers;
Part of a Series from "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations &
Actions to Help Survive Your Cancer Experience" ISBN#:
978-0-9766370-0-4.
Battling Cancer is an individual journey that takes all of
heaven and earth to combat. Choose your caregivers well!!: Your
Caregiver walks a fine line between reality, support
cheerleader, hand holder, master "hugger" and "inspiration
machine", and friend, who must give that medicine, drives you to
treatment, and fusses at you to keep you on track for your
healing journey.
Below are excerpts from "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations &
Actions to Help Survive Your Cancer Experience" ISBN#:
978-0-9766370-0-4. Brent Atwater a Medical Intuitive and
Distance healer, developed and implemented these for her
clients, that used them to improve the quantity and quality of
their lives.
Your Cancer caregiver is your primary filter and monitor of your
visitors, both family and friends. They should only allow
POSITIVE PEOPLE!!! and ONLY people who are emotionally
nourishing for you. YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT! They should
encourage you to be surrounded by individuals who treat as if
you are living and expect you to have a future. No "what
if'ers,' no "maybe that won't work", or "oh you poor dear", or
any others who say negative things. If ANYONE ever says to you
"before you were living with cancer, now you're dying with
cancer." Remove them from your life until they can be respectful
and empathetic! Not only are they unable to determine your
death, they are also unkind to make a remark like this. If they
say to you, "I was just making a realistic statement so you
won't be in denial and we can address your will, funeral plans,
and future provisions." FORGET THAT justification!!!!! NO ONE
who truly cares about your heart and soul, would ever say
anything like that. Do not be so needy for attention, that you
allow yourself to be the "victim" of comments that are TOTALLY
inappropriate!! no matter how sick you are. As long as there is
breath in your body, you have the right to be treated with
respect and dignity, and as if you are going to live!!! Family
members as Caregivers: If you have spent your life helping
others, and enabling them, it's time to stop that energy drain.
This does NOT mean that you do not love them anymore. It means
that you care enough about yourself to take care of you FIRST,
so that you can be around in the future to help them.
Non-healing: 1. "But he's my brother and he just drinks a little
too much, and he wants to come visit"..... His energy will drain
you!!! Visit with him when you are healed! 2. At this time, YOU
do NOT need to hear their problems. They need to support you!
Friends as Caregivers: There are several kinds of friends during
this time in your life. The talkers: They call to see how you
are, listen for a short period of time and then spend hours
telling you about their life. They ask if they can do anything
for you. When you mention that you need a ride to chemo on
Thursdays, their answer is, "I'd love to take you, but I have
book club." Do not be discouraged. This person is interested
enough to call, but NOT authentic about truly helping you or
they would have taken you to chemo........ There will be more
book clubs, this is your battle with a disease! Thank them for
calling, and get off the phone. You are not THAT needy to have
to talk with someone who won't really be there for you! The
Doers: These are the friends that pick you up, sit through, and
bring you home after chemo, and probably add fresh flowers to
your home. Be thankful. They encourage you to live with every
dinner invitation, movie, or "let's go to" invitation. GO! Do
not feel like you are "putting them out", "being a bother", or
whatever. When you are well, YOU can DO for them!!!!! They are
your Earth Angels. Being the Caregiver for someone battling
cancer, and going through cancer treatment is a job that
requires everything you can muster to handle your work and all
of your coping skills.
Advice for the Caregiver: 1. Treat your Cancer client as if they
are going to live. DO NOT treat them as if it's just a matter of
time. Always speak of their "experience" NEVER a disease. 2. You
will most likely be caught up in the overwhelming environment of
caregiving, and handling every life and medical detail and
decision. Try to look at the patient and all of their
circumstances as if they are in a healing situation, and in a
positive manner. Don't be a Pollyanna, but try to put a positive
spin on everything that you can. 3. Although your patient has
"determination to live", that determination needs to be rooted
in positive. Positive energy raises their body's physical energy
frequency which fights their disease. 4. Creating a positive
uplifting environment: a. Dress in happy colors. b. Help create
a environmentally pleasant and visually happy care area. Little
touches mean a lot! c. Only allow positive people around your
patient. EXPLAIN why the negative folks need to stay away, and
help keep them away. d. Be very conscious of how YOUR energy can
effect the "patient." If you view the patient in a "sick"
condition, you are sending negative energy their way! If you
have a negative attitude, or irritable responses, you generate
negative energy which lowers your patient's physical body
frequency and DOES NOT help heal the disease. Your energy field
will affect your patient. e. Keep your energy field clean. Your
patient is like a sponge and absorbs and interacts with all the
energy surrounding them and that they are exposed to. 5.
Contributing Life force energy thru Love: On numerous occasions,
family and friends have asked how they can contribute positive
energy to the "patient." [An educational note: The hand that you
write with is your energy sending hand. The other hand is your
energy input receiving hand.] So follow the directions below
according to whether you are right or left handed. Take your
left receiving hand and place it on your heart, and take your
right sending hand to hold the patient's left hand (receiving
hand). Then say to the patient, "I send you the love from my
Heart and it's healing life force energy to use as you so
choose." You then become an "energizer" bunny for the patient
thru your love for them.
You are invited to download our free pamphlet with excerpts from
this book "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations & Actions to Help
Survive Your Cancer Experience" ISBN#: 978-0-9766370-0-4. at
http://www.brentatwater.com/ or
http://www.brentenergywork.com/BOOKS.htm
Feel free to reprint this article in it's original format with
the disclaimer.
CONTACT INFORMATION: Brent Atwater
Atlanta, GA 1.404.242.9022 USA
NC Office: 1.910.692.5206 USA
email: Brent@BrentAtwater.com
Web Site: http://www.brentatwater.com
Disclaimer: There are no guarantees about the healing
properties of these suggestions. We can only state that positive
results have been documented for individual clients and research
in this area continues. Ms Atwater is not a medical doctor or
associated with any branch of medicine. Ms Atwater works in
Alternative, Integrative and Complementary Medicine. She offers
her opinions based on her intuition, which is not a substitute
for medical procedures or treatments. Always consult a physician
or health care provider concerning any medical problem or
condition before undertaking any diet, health related or
lifestyle change program. There are no guarantees with any of
the suggestions in this publication.