Choosing your Caregivers & Tips for Caregivers Coping with
Health Challenges
Choosing your Caregivers & Tips for Caregivers Coping with
Health Challenges; Part of a Series from "Positive Attitudes,
Affirmations & Actions for Overcoming Your Health Challenges"
ISBN#: 978-0-9766370-3-5.
Battling your disease and or disorder is an individual journey
that takes all of heaven and earth to combat. Choose your
caregivers well!!: Your Caregiver walks a fine line between
reality, support cheerleader, hand holder, master "hugger" and
"inspiration machine", and friend, who must give that medicine,
drives you to treatment, and fusses at you to keep you on track
for your healing journey.
Below are excerpts from "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations &
Actions for Overcoming Your Health Challenges" ISBN#:
978-0-9766370-3-5. Brent Atwater a Medical Intuitive and
Distance healer, developed and implemented these for her
clients, that used them to improve the quantity and quality of
their lives.
Your caregiver is your primary filter and monitor of your
visitors, both family and friends. They should only allow
POSITIVE PEOPLE!!! and ONLY people who are emotionally
nourishing for you. The quality of your life and health DEPENDS
ON IT! Caregivers should encourage you to be surrounded by
individuals who treat as if you are going to get better, and
expect you to have a healthier future. No "what if'ers,' no
"maybe that won't work", or "oh you poor dear", or any others
who say negative things. If ANYONE ever says to you "before you
were living with a disease diagnosis, now you're dying from your
disease." Remove them from your life until they can be
respectful and empathetic! Not only are they unable to determine
your death, they are also unkind to make a remark like this. If
they say to you, "I was just making a realistic statement so you
won't be in denial and we can address your will, funeral plans,
and future provisions." FORGET THAT justification!!!!! NO ONE
who truly cares about your heart and soul, would ever say
anything like that. Do not be so needy for attention, that you
allow yourself to be the "victim" of comments that are TOTALLY
inappropriate!! no matter how sick you are. As long as there is
breath in your body, you have the right to be treated with
respect and dignity, and as if you are going to live!!! Family
members as Caregivers: If you have spent your life helping
others, and enabling them, it's time to stop that energy drain.
This does NOT mean that you do not love them anymore. It means
that you care enough about yourself to take care of you FIRST,
so that you can be around in the future to help them.
Non-healing: 1. "But he's my brother and he just drinks a little
too much, and he wants to come visit"..... His energy will drain
you!!! Visit with him when you are healed! 2. At this time, YOU
do NOT need to hear their problems. They need to support you!
Friends as Caregivers: There are several kinds of friends during
this time in your life. The talkers: They call to see how you
are, listen for a short period of time and then spend hours
telling you about their life. They ask if they can do anything
for you. When you mention that you need a ride to the hospital
on Thursdays, their answer is, "I'd love to take you, but I have
book club." Do not be discouraged. This person is interested
enough to call, but NOT authentic about truly helping you or
they would have taken you to that appointment........ There will
be more book clubs, this is your battle with your disease! Thank
them for calling, and get off the phone. You are not THAT needy
to have to talk with someone who won't really be there for you!
The Doers: These are the friends that pick you up, sit through,
and bring you home after medical procedures or treatments, and
probably add fresh flowers to your home. Be thankful. They
encourage you to live with every dinner invitation, movie, or
"let's go to" invitation. GO! Do not feel like you are "putting
them out", "being a bother", or whatever. When you are well, YOU
can DO for them!!!!! They are your Earth Angels. Advice for Your
Caregiver: Being the Caregiver for someone battling a major
disease or disorder, and going through their medical treatments
is a job that requires everything you can muster to handle your
work and all of your coping skills. 1. Treat your client as if
they are going to live and get better. DO NOT treat them as if
it's just a matter of time for their condition to worsen. Always
speak of their "experience" NEVER a disease. 2. You will most
likely be caught up in the overwhelming environment of
caregiving, and handling every life and medical detail and
decision. Try to look at the patient and all of their
circumstances as if they are in a healing situation, and in a
positive manner. Don't be a Pollyanna, but try to put a positive
spin on everything that you can. 3. Although your patient has
"determination to live", that determination needs to be rooted
in positive. Positive energy raises their body's physical energy
frequency which fights their disease amd raises their immune
system response. 4. Create a positive uplifting environment: a.
Dress in happy colors. b. Help create an environmentally
pleasant and visually happy care area. Little touches mean a
lot! c. Only allow positive people around your patient. EXPLAIN
why the negative folks need to stay away, and help keep them
away. d. Be very conscious of how YOUR energy can effect the
"patient." If you view the patient in a "sick" condition, you
are sending negative energy their way! If you have a negative
attitude, or irritable responses, you generate negative energy
which lowers your patient's physical body frequency and DOES NOT
help heal the disease. Your energy field will affect your
patient. e. Keep your energy field clean. Your patient is like a
sponge and absorbs and interacts with all the energy surrounding
them and that they are exposed to. 5. Contributing Life force
energy thru Love: On numerous occasions, family and friends have
asked how they can contribute positive energy to the "patient."
[An educational note: The hand that you write with is your
energy sending hand. The other hand is your energy input
receiving hand.] So follow the directions below according to
whether you are right or left handed. Take your left receiving
hand and place it on your heart, and take your right sending
hand to hold the patient's left hand (receiving hand). Then say
to the patient, "I send you the love from my Heart and it's
healing life force energy to use as you so choose." You then
become an "energizer" bunny for the patient thru your love for
them.
You are invited to download our free pamphlet with excerpts from
this book. We hope this will help you with you battle. Positive
Attitudes, Affirmations & Actions for Overcoming Your Health
Challenges" ISBN#: 978-0-9766370-3-5. at
http://www.brentatwater.com/ or
http://www.brentenergywork.com/BOOK Disease.htm
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CONTACT INFORMATION: Brent Atwater
Atlanta, GA 1.404.242.9022 USA
NC Office: 1.910.692.5206 USA
email: Brent@BrentAtwater.com
website: http://www.brentatwater.com
Disclaimer: There are no guarantees about the healing
properties of these suggestions. We can only state that positive
results have been documented for individual clients and research
in this area continues. Ms Atwater is not a medical doctor or
associated with any branch of medicine. Ms Atwater works in
Alternative, Integrative and Complementary Medicine. She offers
her opinions based on her intuition, which is not a substitute
for medical procedures or treatments. Always consult a physician
or health care provider concerning any medical problem or
condition before undertaking any diet, health related or
lifestyle change program. There are no guarantees with any of
the suggestions in this publication.