Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? You believe you see
signs of a cheating spouse.The need to know  whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons why the  drive to spy is powerful. Here are three:

1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and it was met with denial.  This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, Hey, this doesn't fit! I don't believe it!

To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous
internal turmoil.

If the truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY!

Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your
gut feelings.

2. Spying on 'cheating' husbands or cheating wives often helps the person feel
connected to the partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is
a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to
this stranger who once was well known.

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