Hey Me! Get Out Of My Way
How often it is we give up wanting to do something even before
we give ourselves an honest chance of succeeding.
Perhaps, we begin writing our autobiography. We get the table of
contents and the introduction written, then we let it sit
because we don't think anyone will care.
We begin a diet over a weekend. Within a couple of days, we are
back to our normal habits because we didn't see any immediate
results.
Maybe we want to start a desktop publishing business. We get it
started and the clients start coming in sooner than we expected.
Because of our past experiences where we have been so good at
what we did, we only remember getting bombarded with more and
more work when we wish we could have taken a break. We may see
how this can end up, so we slack off and let the business of our
dreams fade away.
Or maybe we have this idea of having our own place on the
Internet. We create a page, then we have different ideas to put
on it. Then we think of starting a business with it. Then we
also want to have a newsletter for people. Then we want to do
web pages for others. Then we go back and work on ways to get
people to read our newsletter. But we need a better web site. So
we start from scratch and the circle continues. Having too many
things we would like to do can stop us as well.
Personally, I've become an expert at getting out of my own way
when it comes to doing things. After all, I've gotten in my own
way over and over again for years.
I still fit the last one. So many different areas that interest
me, I have jumped from one thing to another to another. Like
many of the books on the bookshelf at home, I don't think I have
ever finished one of them all the way through.
We stop ourselves in any number of ways.
- I'm not good enough: Well, on Monday, a group of students will
be given a lecture by the worst teacher. The worst actor will
star in a made-for-television movie. And the worst boy band will
put on a mini show for friends and family in their garage.
- No one will be interested: Just look around at some of the
things you see on television or read in newspapers or books or
magazines. It is amazing some things have lasted this long.
- I'm too old/young: Colonel Sanders was in his eighties when he
began his Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurant. Anne Frank was a
young girl when she wrote her diary which is still published and
read to this very day throughout the world.
- I don't know what I want to do: You may not know exactly what
it may be, but there is something in the back of your mind that
is important. Especially if you know you're not happy in what
you're doing now, you know there's more you want out of life.
- I want to do too much: No one says you can't do a little of
everything. Just have to pick one that will set the groundwork
for the others. Find what is the common thread in the things you
would like, and start there. You can branch off once that
foundation is in place.
- The universe is out to get me: Ummmmm. Not at all. Once you
make up your mind and begin heading in some direction, the
universe will open up in ways you can't see right now. People
will come into your life, events will take place, and you will
begin to see a bit further each day. But you have to make the
first moves.
Motivational speaker Les Brown in his book "It's Not Over Until
You Win," tells a story of a keynote speaker at a National
Speakers Association conference he attended. The speaker was
perhaps the worst speaker Les had ever heard. The man spoke in a
monotone voice and was dull as a butter knife. By the end of his
presentation, more than two-thirds of the audience had walked
out.
The speaker, noticing this said something that pretty much sums
up this column.
"The reason I am up here (Doing) and you are sitting down there
(watching) is because I represent the thoughts you have rejected
for yourself."
Give yourself a chance and get out of your own way.