My Concept
My Concept - by Joseph Ghabi
>From my own personal experiences with relationships I believe in
a concept that I have been working with, at least in my mind's
eye, which is to give generously of yourself in your
relationship. Always do what you can for your partner to make
him or her happy, regardless if they invest in you. I call my
concept "The Concept of 100%". As a result of this I was happy,
and never felt bad when I had to separate myself from a
relationship. I believe that when you invest your 100% percent's
worth, you never gets hurt, or at least not to the same extent
as when someone didn't. The question will always come to mind
"What if I had invested more into the relationship?". I do not
like this statement and have always tried to avoid it. This
concept came to my rescue. I grew to be a better person from my
experiences. I don't regret a thing.
You may be wondering where this concept came from? The concept
is basically founded on my understanding of how any link between
two people has to come from the soul for them to experience true
love. One of the reasons that we stop loving someone is when
that energy stops flowing in between them. We seem to
underestimate our Soul for this very reason, as some of us do
not recognize its existence. We allowed, through the years, the
surface things to take the best part out of us. Why is this?
Well I still believe in my "The Concept of 100%", but now I am
working on a modified version of it. I'm allowed to do what I
want to it - after all it is my concept isn't it?
I realized recently that I was happy providing all the necessary
tools or support, or whatever we want to call it, to my
ex-girlfriends but somehow I never (or perhaps rarely) allowed
any of them to give me anything in return. "The Concept of 100%"
is based on an exchange of energies between two people. This is
in order to make a better link between both souls in the
process. For any relationship to last, or to be strong and
beneficial, it requires a link from the souls for it to survive.
Otherwise our relationships always will stay at a surface level.
By not allowing anything in return, I was cutting that link in
my own way. Wow! That was a very important realization. I was
able to have this realization when I met someone who tried to
understand or understood my concept. Now, I'm in a way
contradicting my own concept, but the question is why? Now half
of the problem can be resolved by admitting that there is a
loophole in my concept
Having a computer science background allowed me to realize that
no software is perfect and that modification and implementation
is required in order for it to work. I did not have a problem
with my own contradiction because I believe we are not perfect
beings regardless of how small or big we are (or think we are).
You see we do program ourselves and we should always pay
attention to what we do, or say, and listen to what we keep
repeating to our subconscious.
Because it is in my interest to fix the problem (and the sooner
the better) I came to realize later on, after seriously going
deeper into myself, that there lay in me a hidden fear. It was a
deep fear of commitment, and me not wanting to get stuck for the
rest of my life with the wrong person. As a result I would not
have been able to do the things I was suppose to do in this
lifetime. That said it all, didn't it!!!
At that time, I had no clue what I wanted in my life. I had a
mild sense of direction, but then again I was only 19 years old.
The only thing I can remember was that I couldn't settle down
and have any kids at that early stage of my life. I accepted the
fact by giving of myself, to make the other person happy, but
never allowed, if only partially, the other person to share
their love with me. Now comes the time of de-programming or
deleting that file in my subconscious. That should not be a
problem, as long as you realize that the problem is
self-inflicted. I believe in my concept. What I did was, like
when you write a business contract, leave a clause in allowing
for your escape (or an out). That's exactly what happens!
How many of us have programmed ourselves into doing things, or
running away from things, in order not to get hurt, to become
vulnerable, or even to be happy? Why do we do this? God only
knows. We do things as a human race to limit ourselves, and keep
ourselves down in order not to get hurt. And really, for what,
and at what expense, if you come to think of it? Having a hidden
program is your biggest misfortune of all.
Well after this amazing realization, I will continue to work on
my "The Concept of 100%" with a new upgraded version 2.0 with
the place and space of improvement added to it. Just invoke your
soul for some extra investment power in your next relationship.
You are the winner after all!
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