Why Do Men And Women Cheat?
Why do men and women cheat? And what can be done about it?
Infidelity or extramarital affairs have been extensively studied
over the past two decades and a lot has been discovered.
Unfortunately, most of the evidence indicates being faithful to
a single romantic partner is difficult to do.
To start with, human sexuality is incredibly complex. Decisions
about our sexual behavior are typically not planned in advance.
Few people intentionally plan on committing infidelity (at least
the first time it happens).
When making promises to be faithful, most people are serious and
have every intention of keeping their word. But while people
generally have the best intentions when making such promises,
human behavior is not always governed by the fact that vows were
taken and promises were made.
When it comes to making decisions about love and betrayal, logic
and reason have a difficult time competing with our emotions for
control. Simply put, logic and reason often take the backseat to
our emotions when it comes to love and romance. So from time to
time, our emotions can get the best of us and lead us down paths
we had no intention of traveling.
In short, most infidelity occurs, not because it is planned, but
because people find themselves in situations where their
emotions lead them astray.
What types of situations influence our emotions and bring out
the worst in our behavior?
* Being close or interdependent on someone other than one's
spouse * Being around someone who is sexually interested *
Spending a lot of time one-on-one with someone else * Not
feeling close or connected to one's spouse (e.g., feeling
lonely, being upset or angry with a spouse, etc.) * Situations
that create the sense of opportunity - the feeling that one will
not get caught (e.g., meeting someone in private, out of town
trips, a lot of time away form a spouse, etc.). * Situations
involving alcohol or drugs
For more information about why people cheat and what can be done
about it, please visit the truthaboutdeception.com.