Signs Of Interest
When flirting, you should be on the lookout for signs of
interest. If you see at least four of the following signs in the
body language of the person you are with, it is likely that they
are interested in you, and you are being given a green light to
move things further!
1. Lengthy eye contact. Eye contact maintained over a period of
four seconds or more is unusual between casual acquaintances or
friends, but not amongst lovers; and it can be rather
intimidating, but if you are flirting with someone and they know
that you could be flirting with them, they are sending you an
explicit message with the power of eye contact! This could also
come from somebody who hates you, but that is unlikely from a
stranger.
2. Mirroring. If your posture tends to be similar to that of the
other person and tend to do what you do at about the same time
that you do it, they are either consciously or unconsciously
developing a rapport with you. You can test this by subtly
changing one aspect of your posture (the position of an arm, for
example) and noticing whether this change is reflected in the
other person during the next minute.
3. Where the body and feet are pointing. If you are with someone
who is happy to remain with you at the moment, they will
generally speaking have turned to face you. If the person wishes
they were somewhere else, they will likely have turned away from
you, even if they are facing you; look for the legs and feet
pointing somewhere else, perhaps even towards a door. Note that
this only applies where you are in a one-on-one situation, and
doesn't apply between groups of people.
4. Leaning in towards you. Somebody leaning in towards you is
displaying a definite sign of interest, possibly even
excitement! This is usually accompanied by open arms and legs.
Conversely, somebody leaning away from you, perhaps with their
arms and legs crossed, is displaying a lack of interest. If they
are leaning in towards you and you do the same, you can be sure
that something more is likely to happen, because it is very
likely to lead to the next stage!
5. Touch. Firstly, if you are close enough to touch easily then
that's a good sign. There are several things to look for. Hands
resting across a table, on your side of it, that are close
enough to touch, typically from a woman, signify interest; she
doesn't want to touch first, but she would like to be touched!
Picking off a piece of lint from clothes, whether it exists or
not, is another good sign. Touching upper arms when sitting next
to each other where it is not especially crowded is often done.
Lingering touches send an even stronger flirting signal!
6. Raising eyebrows upon first meeting. This is usually over
very quickly, lasting about a quarter of a second. As it happens
on first meeting, you need to be quick to look for this one! The
longer it lasts, the more interest lies beneath, as it can last
for up to a second.
7. They are looking at your face or body other than your eyes,
especially your mouth or your erogenous zones. They are probably
imagining what it would be like to kiss that part of you!