Get Out of Jail Free: Stop Being Defensive
When Marcus and Sally first met they immediately felt like
kindred spirits. Marcus was generally warm and open. But as
their relationship continued, Sally noticed that sometimes when
he was upset he had trouble talking. When she asked Marcus what
was bothering him, he would reply that nothing was wrong. Only
when she coaxed him would he eventually tell her. As time went
on, his resistance increased. The more she probed, the more
reluctant he was . . . neither of them felt an ounce of kinship;
they didn