Who's the You Running Your Life?

Get Drama and Trauma Out of Your Karma You finally make a friend or get a hot date with someone you're attracted to-then blow it by acting aloof or not being yourself. Have you ever had the experience of deciding to take a certain action, but end up doing something quite different? Crazy! Why do we do that? Often our actions are being run by decisions we made as a kid. Decisions that went on automatic, underground, behind-the-scenes, and now, affect us unconsciously. Decisions that are now controlling our actions in the present moment without us being aware of them. You land an exciting job-then blow it by "copping an attitude" with the boss or customers. Why do we get so off track after we begin with such good intention and courage? It's those pesky childhood decisions! As we grew up, we developed strategies to survive at home and in school. We wanted our parents' love and attention and a safe place to live. We wanted to belong, get asked to the prom, and pass exams-while not getting beaten up by the school bully or humiliated by gossip. We decided to act in certain ways to keep ourselves as socially acceptable and secure as possible. Congratulations, You Succeeded! The survival strategies you developed as a kid worked! These behavior patterns were good, positive, beneficial, even brilliant. They succeeded in doing the job they were designed to do in that situation at that time. The proof-you're reading this. These tactics kept you alive! Perhaps a bit bruised, but still breathing. Breathing, but maybe not as happy as you could be. Once a Friend-Now a Foe Have you noticed you're still using some of the same behavioral strategies to get what you want as an adult that you used in your youth? Playing na