They are just excuses!
Sometimes people develop a tendency to find excuses for all
their failures or mistakes. I have heard all types of excuses
from people. They range from having bad parents to hanging out
with the wrong crowd. Although sometimes external sources can
impact our actions, it is not the right approach to solve
problems and move on. Everyone knows that we are not able to
control other people's behavior. But, we have the ability to
control our own behavior. Therefore placing blame on others or
on certain situations will not get you anywhere.
In order for anyone to learn from their failures they must take
a hard look at themselves and be honest. An example of this
would be, a woman that believes that she did not accomplish
anything with her life because she had kids and not much time to
do anything. If she takes a hard look at herself and becomes
open to being honest, she will easily see that she did not get a
degree or pursue after her dream career because she was focus on
something else. Maybe, she was interested on having and raising
her family or perhaps she made an unconscious decision to stay
within her own comfort zone.
Yes, life is hard and certain circumstances complicate it even
more. Therefore, pursuing after goals may become two times
harder. However, the real truth is that when a person wants to
do something and makes a conscious decision to go down that
path, there is no stopping them. If you do not believe me,
observe the lives of some of the most famous and powerful people
today. Among them are Bill Clinton and Ophra Winfrey while; Bill
Clinton came from a place that many would consider the wrong
side of the tracks, Ophra overcame child sexual abuse.
So, what makes them so different from the rest of us? They
simply did not sit down to feel sorry for themselves and make up
excuses. They simply focused on what they wanted and how they
were going to achieve it and you know what they did it.
Now, I am here to tell you that you can too make your dreams
come true. As long as, you are willing to close examine your
actions and are honest with yourself.
Remember for every cause there is an effect!
Kenia Morales