5 Tips To Conquer Your Fear Of Taking Action
Copyright 2006 Christopher Green
When an opportunity arises to change your life for the better,
your fear will generate excuses to spoil it for you. Each excuse
is a single piece in the loser's jigsaw. The end picture is an
unhappy picture of you. Here's how you can build a happier one.
Let's say you've seen someone you really fancy. You can't take
your eyes off them and you want to get it on with them. As soon
as you think about approaching them, fear starts the jigsaw
puzzle:
1. Fear's first piece is picked: "Yes, but they wouldn't fancy
someone like me. I'm too fat/thin/tall/short/young/old." This is
predicting a negative outcome by generating a poor self-image.
Accept it and you won't make your approach. Instead, believe
you're a catch. And you don't know how someone will react, you
might click big time. There's only one way to find out!
2. Fear selects another piece and picks on you again. "I'm not
very good at starting conversations. I'll bore them and
embarrass myself." Give into this one and well, you'll have
bored them for sure because you didn't even say "Hello". How
boring is that?
3. The loser's jigsaw continues: "They might react in a nasty
way and embarrass me. I don't want to be rejected in a nasty
way." This is another negative prediction and as with all of
these excuses, it has little to support it. It's rare that
you'll get a nasty reaction to an advance. Rejection is part of
life and you deal with it by realizing that some people want
what you've got but some people don't. And if you do get a nasty
reaction, it's told you a lot about them and you've just had a
lucky escape.
4. Time for another piece: "I'm not in the right mood tonight.
I'll come in here next week and I'll make my move then." This is
a beauty! Why take action now? You'll be much better next time
and you'll have a better chance. Why rush? Of course, fear knows
delay will keep your life as it is and you won't be exposed to
risk. Why delay the chance to connect with someone who you could
share great times with? They might not be around next time - and
fear knows it.
5. Undaunted, fear continues the game. "I'm not sure I want to
meet someone. Things are going fine so why change?" How cute is
this? Fear is determined to keep you safe and is trying to
convince you that a change for the better will make things
worse! If you want a better life, you have to do something to
get it. This is how fear will stop you. An opportunity to get
more happiness is in front of you. Don't let fear make you turn
your back on it.
Why let fear build a loser's jigsaw for you when you can conquer
it by seizing the moment and taking action!