How to Mastermind your Destiny through Self-Coaching
Reading how to books and self-coaching is an excellent
way of getting to know yourself, quietly receiving answers you
need, or resolving a secret issue you've been stuck on. Not only
that, the only challenge will come from you and the only thing
standing in the way of your personal development will be you!
I've had many 'aha' and self-congratulatory moments through
coaching myself using self development workbooks. I refer to
this as 'Self-Coaching'.
Self-Coaching yourself in this way is great if you're:
1. Shy;
2. Too busy for one-on-one coaching;
3. Someone who doesn't like to go out much;
4. Trying to keep limiting beliefs to yourself;
5. Not ready to be coached by anyone else; and
6. Working on your own personal development without anyone else
knowing - that way no-one will be disappointed if you give it up
or mess it up.
However to get the most out of this form of coaching
you'll need to be:
1. Committed to creating the change you want;
2. Disciplined;
3. Willing to do whatever it takes to develop yourself, eg
spiritual development courses, up-skilling, coaching etc;
4. Aware of when you need outside help.
Please Note: From experience, self-coaching will not be
enough if there are deeper issues needing to be resolved; and
5. The driver behind the wheel of change - it's your life;
you're in charge of your destiny.
Self-coaching can help (depending on the severity of the issue)
find strategies to apply to:
1. A relationship break-up or make-up;
2. Work related issues;
3. Indecision - something you've always dreamed of doing is
forever being pushed aside and you need to make a decision;
4. House move - do I stay or do I leave?
5. Itchy feet and wanting to explore and experience a new
lifestyle; and
6. Money problems.
A powerful step towards changing what you no longer want into
something you really want is by remembering and experiencing
what you'd like to change. Then, as you close the door of the
past behind you, aim for and take action to making it happen.
Start by goal-setting the what, why, how of
transformation, and when you want it to happen by. A few
more tips if you're coaching yourself are:
1. Keep a diary or journal and write in it every day of how you
worked towards achieving inner change. You'll be able to look
back and reflect upon your journey, how you did it, the
frustrations, obstacles, and triumphs. It will also give you a
sense of achievement, after all you did it.
2. Become aware of how you do things and ask yourself "if you
could do this in a better way, how would you do it?"
3. As you coach yourself, at the end of every week summarise
what you've written and determine what changes you can make
easily for the following week.
4. Learn to meditate to give you inner peace as well as clarity
not only whilst working with your situation but also to give
yourself another self-help tool for your 'life skill toolkit'.
5. Take up a spiritual development course and increase your
intuition. People use their intuition practically every day
without realising it, increasing your intuition can help in
all areas of your life.
6. Inform everyone who needs to know that you'll be offline for
however long your self coaching sessions will be. Once you've
organised your time, be ruthless and stick to your timetable.
Failing to do this will result in a nasty thing called
procrastination to hold you captive!
7. Make a special note of any limiting beliefs you discover
about yourself. For example, maybe you have a hang up around
earning an income, or maybe you're not as confident as you like
to believe you are. In this case if you are unable to find
solutions to these beliefs it's time to call upon the services
of a transformational coach or other professional (this
applies to anything you're unable to effectively work
through).
The success of any 'Self-Coaching' program is dependent on two
things:
1. Your level of commitment; and
2. The quality and content of the workbook itself. It must be
designed and developed by someone with coaching experience, an
understanding of adult learning principles and the ability to
encapsulate it all in 'simple speak'.
Self-coaching has been an excellent 'self-help' tool for me over
the years; however it doesn't replace one-on-one
transformational coaching and nor should it.
An example of a well written and professionally constructed
Self-Coaching e-workbook can be found at
http://www.michaelascherr.com/publications.htm