Law of Attraction: If I create my reality: Why am I getting this
?! part 1
In arguing against law of attraction as a valid principle, one
of the most frequently asked questions is: "If I create my own
reality, why on earth did I create this"? Sometimes it is
phrased: "I can't possibly be creating my reality because I
never would have chosen this". Everybody wonders about this.
This article explains how we create and why trying to understand
why we created something is a pitfall.
How we create
We create the reality we experience by our thoughts and
feelings. Our thoughts and feelings create a tone or a vibration
that acts as a magnet which draws to us more of the experiences
or events that will give us more of the same thoughts and
feelings. This has to be brief here because volumes and volumes
have been written on the specifics of how we do it and how to
control it. Our dominant vibration draws situations of like
vibration to us. Most of the time we are creating from default.
We are not consciously aware of what we are thinking or
believing, and we are not making conscious choices for our
preferences.
The nine ways we create unconsciously are:
1. Habit
Current research in neuro-psychology says we think 50,000 to
60,000 thoughts a day and over 90 percent of these are the same
thoughts we thought yesterday. They are often the same thoughts
our parents had. We seldom examine or question the random,
repeating small voice in our heads. Often it is saying things
like "this is the only way to do this", "this is just the way it
is". Or it is saying things like "this can't happen to a person
like me", and "I'm not good enough, smart enough, lucky enough
to do . . ." or "everybody knows . . ."
2. Ignorance: Not knowing I had a better choice or even any
choice at all
We often don't realize we can have a choice about things. Until
we start learning about deliberate creation we often feel like
we are victims of circumstance, of randomness, or of a
judgmental and capricious god. None of this is true. Learning
deliberate creation is empowering. We come to understand,
through knowing the physics of it, that we can influence
EVERYTHING in our world. And yet, we still often think, but I
can't affect my health, for instance, or but I can't affect
world events. Not true. We always have choice and we always have
free will. We can affect and influence everything we experience.
I don't mean we can affect our response to it only after it has
appeared in our lives, but that we can control the balance and
frequency of our experience of joyful and less joyful events in
our lives. Yes, it takes practice and awareness, but it can be
done and it's not too difficult to do.
3. Expectations of those around me, media conditioning, group
think
How often have you heard thoughts stated like "if something can
go wrong, it will", "the change in temperature is causing
everybody to catch a cold", "because the economy is bad, jobs
are hard to get now" "you're too old - nobody your age ever did
that", "your body will deteriorate as you get older". A friend
of mine who works in the medical profession said, "all men get
prostate problems as they get older". I was horrified. I
playfully punched him on the arm and reminded him not to think
that way if he doesn't want to be one of them. Advertisements,
particularly on TV, and especially those by the pharmaceutical
companies are powerful influencers if we believe them. They try
to make you believe "everybody has . . . ", or "everybody needs
. . ". Magazines, newspapers, movies and the culture we live in
all perpetuate ideas they take as truth. In reality, truth can
be what we define it to be for each of us.
4. Selective Observing
Observation of a state or condition brings more of the same.
This is what we call a self-fulfilling prophecy. We use our
minds, unconsciously, to shift through our thousands of
interactions to find the ones that justify our ideas, beliefs,
and expectations about the world. Then we say, "See? I knew it
would be this way!" If we believe all cashiers are rude, for
instance, we won't notice all the times our experiences are
pleasant. But when we encounter the one who is less than
friendly, we declare it to be the truth about all cashiers. We
talk about how insulted we were, we tell our friends not to shop
at that store and we rehash the event over and over, magnifying
our feelings with each telling. This strengthens the vibration
that all cashiers are rude. The next time you go shopping you
will more likely gravitate past the five cashiers who are
pleasant and friendly to the one who is tired and having a bad
day. Even if she says nothing to you, you will be anticipating
some sort of insult and will probably find it.
5. Beliefs
A belief is a habit of thought. It is a thought we keep thinking
until it becomes a paradigm, a filter, through which we view and
relate to the world. Like any thought, beliefs that limit us can
be changed. The tricky part is in recognizing our beliefs as
thoughts about a thing and not as the absolute, unchangeable
truth about the thing. A lot of our beliefs are below our level
of conscious awareness. "I can't do that, I'm not skilled,
talented, rich, lucky enough". "I have to work hard to make
money." "Taxes eat up everything." "Easy come, easy go." "No
gain without pain." "Life is hard". A friend of mine says she
learned from her parents that, "People like us. . " usually
finished by, "always have to work hard", "never get a break",
"don't have the means to travel".
Those of us who think we're scientific use statistics to justify
or 'prove' our beliefs. Yet, there is the quote by Mark Twain,
"There are three kinds of lies: there are lies, damn lies and
statistics." We know statistics and even scientific experiments
usually show only what we expect to see. In quantum physics this
is called the 'observer effect'. If we accept our beliefs
without question, we create our reality from them. When we
change the beliefs, we create our reality by choice and through
joy.
Continued in Part 2.