How To Build Your Self Confidence
Learn to accept yourself
The very first step is to accept yourself - lovingly. No person
in the world in perfect so why bother and shed tears over your
imperfectness. This is how God wanted us to be - Imperfect! We
might have something that someone else may lack and someone else
might be endowed with the qualities, which we lack. This
incompleteness makes us go out and seek companions who make us
feel loved, wanted and complete. Oh what a great feeling! Would
we experience it if we were inside the cocoon of our perfection?
Never! So accept yourself the way you are. It will free your
mind of a heavy baggage of unnecessary worries. You will
instantly feel light and cheerful.
Liberate yourself - Go out and do what you like!
How long it has been since you last went to have a walk among
the pines - something that you loved as a child? How long has it
been when you walked hand in hand with your friend to the bakery
and tossed a coin to decide what to buy? These might seem very
simple things but these simple things have the power to add on
to build great confidence and fulfilment. Life if see is
actually quite simple.
What gets a bit too complex though is to remain simple. Isn't
it? Just as small drops of water make the mighty ocean, the
little things you enjoy doing have the capability to turn you
into a storehouse of confidence. When God made you, He put a
desire in your heart and bestowed onto you the capability to
achieve it. However, in the process of growing up, you forgot
what exactly was your purpose, what is that you liked and what
is that you enjoyed doing.
It does happen with lots and lots of people who do feel like
breaking free but are too tied up in their day to day
responsibilities that it gets impossible for them to spare even
10 minutes to reflect on their lives, their direction, their
dreams and goals. It's our duty to clear the mess that prevents
us from hearing to our heart. The conversations with your heart
should keep getting clearer and the best way to do it is to find
time to do what you enjoy. And since you enjoy doing that
activity, it straightaway means that you have all the aptitude
and intelligence necessary to do the job effortlessly even
though you may not realize it.
Find your flock
Birds of a feather flock together. You must find out people with
whom you enjoy being. They are certainly the people of your
frequency and the energy flow between you and them is natural.
Life becomes easy when you are among the people who are more or
less on the same plane of thought as you and it's easier to
relate to them. They seem to understand you and vice versa thus
creating conditions for healthy conversations. A good
conversation is a very healthy exercise and an important need of
our mind. We all want our ideas to be heard and appreciated and
a good company provides platform for the same.
Set Achievable Goals and Go for it!
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The
idea is to begin with a small single step that can then further
developed into giant strides. Learn to do the work at hand
rather than to overwhelm oneself by looking at the entirety of a
mammoth looking task. Just like the soil underneath your foot,
the top of mountain too would someday be under your step. The
only way to do something is to Go For It! No matter how small
the progress is the focus should be on completing a task
successfully even though it's a small task. A series of big
uncompleted task is a sure shot way to depression. Break a big
task into a list of small tasks to be completed. Tick off from
your list each job successfully completed. A completed task no
matter how small it is gives a sense of achievement that boosts
our confidence and equips us with more energy to try a bigger
task.