Check Your Confidence Levels
Would you like to be confident? Your answer may be - yes; I do
want to be confident. However, this answer lacks the impact. It
is too generalized. Just like everybody wants to do well in life
and be rich but not many ever realize this wish. This is because
to actually get somewhere in life, you need to quantify your
confidence. You need to define the task for which you need to be
confident so that you can execute it successfully. A mere wish
to be confident won't take you anywhere. The dream must have a
deadline as well!
Self Confidence might mean different things to different people
groups. For a child it might mean to be able to recite the poem
to her teacher the next morning. For a business executive it
might mean to be able to present the business report to the
Board of Directors. For a salaried person it may be the ability
to be able to make a switch over from his secure job to a new
independent venture and so on. To execute their respective
tasks, these people need a certain level of confidence, which
would see them through. Every task requires a minimum level of
confidence to be able to be executed. Do you have a task in your
mind to be done? Do you have the level of confidence required?
Let us check it out!
Following is a simple questionnaire. You have to answer to
these in a YES or NO
1. Does it happen too often with you that you cannot take a
decision all by yourself and you seem to look for your
colleagues, friends, or your spouse to sort the matter for you?
2. Do you always seem to be in perpetual need of a support
system wherein you can feel secure?
3. Do you just sit and listen all the times in your office
meetings?
4. Do you feel difficulty in reporting a matter to your boss or
you have an excellent idea that can improve your company's
efficiency but you cannot muster enough courage to go and talk
about it to your Boss?
5. Are you terrified to meet someone new? Is public speaking
your worst nightmare? 6. Do you timidly accept orders from your
superior even though you know that you are already overloaded
and you need to say no?
7. Are you excessively concerned about what other people think
of you? 8. Do you fear taking risks?
9. Do you feel dissatisfied about your appearance? 10. Are you
uncomfortable in social gatherings - being amongst lots of
people?
If you happen to answer these questions with a Yes, you seem to
have a confidence crisis that might become an obstacle in
successfully executing your tasks. Don't Panic, as it is good
that you found out since now you are aware of a potential
problem of your life. The very fact that you are aware of your
confidence rating makes you ready to take further action and
work towards eliminating the negative effects of low confidence
levels and work towards building your self confidence.
Here are some more questions you may answer.
1. Have you accomplished anything in the past? 2. Are you the
one to go ahead and break the ice at a new place or wait for
someone else to initiate a discussion? 3. Do you feel you are
well respected by others?
4. Do you think you have the potential to succeed? 5. Are you a
happy and loving person? 6. Are you satisfied with your career
graph?
7. Are you satisfied with your skills and qualifications? 8. Do
you feel in control of your life? 9. Do you imagine yourself to
be more successful five years from now? 10. Do you feel that you
are a worthwhile person?
If you happen to answer most of these questions with a NO, you
have LOW self-confidence levels.
However, a YES is never decisive and a NO is never final. One
needs to constantly maintain the good points and work towards
converting bad points into good points. And the good news is
that it is very much possible. It's important that you honestly
answer the questions above, since only when you realize the
present status of your self-confidence would you be working
towards building self-confidence or maintaining and increasing
your present levels.