Dream Interpretation - Dreams About Cheating
Dreams about cheating, either being cheated on or cheating
yourself, are some of the most commonly reported, and most
troubling, dreams there are. Many people take these dreams as
prophecies, and accuse their spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend of
cheating in real life. While these kinds of dreams are sometimes
valid, most times they are not.
When a dream of a cheating spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend turns
out to be accurate, it does not necessarily mean you are
psychic. Rather, it probably means that your unconscious mind
picked up on some subtle signals that your conscious mind either
overlooked or blocked out. For instance, things like a sudden
change in wardrobe, new cologne or sudden interest in fitness
can often signal a cheating spouse. It is possible that your
unconcious took note of all these signals during the day, and
then used your dream state to send a message.
In most cases, however, a dream about a cheating boyfriend,
girlfriend or spouse is not about the spouse at all. Rather, the
dream is most likely caused by insecurity, anxiety or guilt on
the part of the dreamer. For instance, dreaming about catching
your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse with another partner
probably indicates a deep seated anxiety on your part, either
worry about your appearance, doubts about your attractiveness,
or just generalized anxiety about the future.
Likewise, dreaming that you are cheating on your spouse or
significant other can result from guilt you feel about other
issues. In some cases these feelings of guilt are not even
related to your relationship. Rather, the guilt could be the
result of anything from cutting corners at work to cheating on a
test to being less than honest with family members. Thus the
cheating is only a symbol of guilt you already feel, not a
prediction that you will be stepping out on your husband, wife,
boyfriend or girlfriend.
Dreams about a boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on you tend to
be fear based dreams. These dreams do not necessarily represent
fear of being cheated on, although those fears can come out in
dreams. Instead, the fear could be anything, from fear of
failure on a project at work to fear of failing a test at school.
The fear expressed through a boyfriend/girlfriend cheating dream
could also be the manifestation of a deep seated childhood fear
of abandonment. Children of divorced parents, or children whose
parent or parents have died, often express their fear of
abandonment through bad dreams, and these dreams can morph into
dreams where they are abandoned by a partner or a spouse.
Even though the issues expressed through dreams of cheating and
being cheated on are not rooted in the relationship, it is
always a good idea to work through the issues that caused the
dreams. That is because the issues associated with these kinds
of dreams, issues like trust and fear, are important things to
work through. Issues with trust, and fear of abandonment can be
very damaging to even the strongest relationship.
So whether you are the cheater or the cheatee in your dream, it
is important to examine the situations you encounter in your
dreams. The situations, places and people encountered while in a
dream state often represent real people, places and objects, and
learning the connections can allow you to correct the situations
that are leading to such feelings of insecurity and anxiety.