Eliminate Stress - the easy way!
Eliminate Stress - the easy way!
How can we eliminate stress? That is one of the most common
questions asked in the twenty first century with one of the most
elusive answers!
Well, in order to eliminate stress we
should first realise what it is and where it comes from.
A typical dictionary definition explains stress as: "a force
exerted when one body or body part presses on, pulls on, pushes
against, or tends to compress or twist another body or body
part."
Well when we experience stress in our lives it often feels as
though an external (or sometimes internal) force is pressing
against our lives. This causes a great deal of anguish and
frustration to the person suffering which mainly comes from
unwanted harassing thoughts and negative emotions. These
thoughts and emotions cause imbalance, to a greater or lesser
degree, within the mind, which if persisted in will eventually
cause an imbalance in the body!
So when connected to people we can give a clearer definition of
'Stress' as "a state of heightened emotional and mental
imbalance caused by internal or external forces in one's life".
So what internal or external forces can cause this emotional and
mental imbalance in one's life?
At first this appears to be an almost impossible question to
answer. There can be numerous causes of stress. They range from
the more trivial - having a bad day at work - to the more
serious - dreading an impending catastrophic event. However, if
we look at all the apparent causes of stress closely we can see
the root cause, which is always the same! What is it? Well it's
very simple.
Stress is caused when we want things, situations or people to be
different from they are! Basically, it's when we want things
to be the way we want them to be but they just don't change.
Remember the dictionary definition of stress - "a force exerted
when one body or body part presses on, pulls on, pushes against,
or tends to compress or twist another body or body part." We are
desiring things to be different and when they stay the same
(regardless of our actions) we experience stress. Our force of
'will' i.e. our 'wanting' the situation to change is exerting
force on the situation. However, the situation remains the same
and you know what happens when two forces in opposite directions
collide - the stronger force wins! In such situations it is
our desire that becomes compressed or twisted.
Ok, now we know that stress has its roots in 'desire' it becomes
much easier to find a way to eliminate it.
Many mystical and religious traditions have told us that in
order to achieve enlightenment or attain our fondest dreams we
need merely achieve a desire-less state! Unfortunately
not many tell us how to do this! Many tell us that in order to
have something we must first stop wanting it!
This seems a strange concept but it does have solid foundations.
If we desire something to the point of stressing ourselves about
it, then our behaviour becomes grasping and we have little or no
chance of gaining that which we desire.
Fortunately though, there is a simple effective way of
eliminating such grasping desires from your life called
'releasing'. This technique is not new but it is highly
effective and little known in the western world.
Let us look again at our new definition of stress and how we can
use it to eliminate stress on the spot in any situation. Our
definition states that stress is "a state of heightened
emotional and mental imbalance caused by internal or external
forces in one's life". So how do we use this? Well firstly, the
next time you experience a feeling of stress (try to pick a time
when you are only slightly uptight until you get the hang of
this), stop what you are doing for a moment and ask yourself
"what do I want to be different in this situation/person/event?"
- you are identifying your thoughts behind the stress.
Then, once you have identified these thoughts, ask yourself "how
does that make me feel?" - you are identifying the emotions
behind the thoughts.
Let's take an example. You are at work and the boss wants you to
get all your work finished by 5 o' clock but you know that this
is impossible but feel a mounting pressure to succeed at the
task. You find yourself rushing around doing ten things at once
all the time feeling more and more stressful. So, you ask the
first question - "what do I want to be different in this
situation/person/event?" The answer may be, "I want my boss to
stop putting me under pressure". - You have identified some the
thoughts behind the stress.
Next you ask "how does that make me feel?" The answer to this
may be "I feel unappreciated!" - You have identified one
of the feelings behind your thoughts.
Now for one moment stop trying to suppress that emotion and
fully feel it. Allow yourself to delve into that feeling and
experience it and then 'let it go'. Imagine it is a spent force
escaping through your stomach. Do this several times, as it
takes seconds to perform. Within a few repetitions you will
start to feel your stress ease away effortlessly. Keep asking
the questions as there may be several reasons behind your stress
or you may need to 'release' a particularly deep-seated emotion
a few times before it is gone. Try it, you may just be surprised
at the results!
Eliminate Your Stress
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