Managing The Fear of Loneliness
Sometime or another we will experience a time when we are alone.
Some people fear of being alone for various reasons. The first
step is to become comfortable with yourself and having the
self-confidence that you will be able to manage being alone.
There is nothing wrong with being alone. If being alone bothers
you then seeing a counselor can help you with these issues.
In the meantime, here is a short list of techniques that a
person can use so that the fear of being alone doesn't become a
major issue in their lives.
The first step is to find an activity that you enjoy and where
you can meet a lot of people. For instance, joining a group
activity such as a volleyball group, women's club, or making
Crafts can be a great way to meet people. Doing something that
you like to do will make you happy and will increase your
chances of making friends.
Spending time with animals can be a great source of
companionship. Whether you have a dog or you go to your local
shelter, spending time with an animal or pet can help us to feel
better. Animals can be of good company to all of us whether we
are alone or not.
Helping others through community service can be of some help.
There are many people out there who could benefit from your time
and talents. Helping others can give you a source of pride and
accomplishment and also can lead to friendships.
It isn't fun being alone, but sometimes there are worse things.
For instance, imagine that you are married or stuck in a
relationship that you can't get out of and also makes you
miserable. Not only do you have to live with this person, but
there is no way to get out of the relationship because of
various financial or personal reasons. As a result, you are
stuck living with someone that you can't stand and makes you
depressed every single day of your life. With this viewpoint,
being alone doesn't sound that bad.
For those of you who believe in God, spending time with God and
praying to him can help us in our lonely situation. Spending
time with God and asking God for help in our time of loneliness
can be of great comfort. You never know how God will work in
ones life. Ask him for help and trust that he will help you.
As a Layman, the important thing is to do something
constructive. Sitting around and doing nothing will not make
things any better whether its dealing with the fear of being
alone or something else. Take it one day at a time and stay
committed in trying to solve your problem.