Managing The Fear of Rejection in Today's World
We have all gotten turned down from a job interview, sports team
try out, or even a date. It can sometimes be difficult to
overcome the feelings of rejection and to try again. As a
result, here is a list of techniques a person can use to help
get over the feelings of not making it on the first or second
try.
When getting turned down, the key is to learn from your mistakes
and to give it another try. Doing anything in life requires
practice and persistence. For example, remember the time when
you first learned to ride a bike. The first few times, you kept
following off the bike. With some practice and some time, you
were able to ride your bike with no problem. Everything we do is
a learning experience so do not get discouraged if you don't
make it on the first or second time.
Sometimes, our negative thoughts will get the best of us when we
fail to get what we want. A technique that is very helpful is to
have a small notebook of positive statements that make us feel
good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you
feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry
around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel discouraged,
open up your small notebook and read those statements.
If you have trouble accomplishing a certain task, visualize
yourself doing the task in your mind. For instance, you and your
team have to play in the championship volleyball game in front
of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big
day comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your mind.
Imagine that your playing in front of a large audience. By
playing the game in your mind, you will be better prepared to
perform for real when the time comes. Use this same technique in
your situation. Visualize yourself succeeding at your goal.
Asking for help can make a difference. Talking to someone who
has been there can give us insights on how to overcome our
current situation. A friend can also provide encouragement and
remind us that we are not alone. Also remember to take it one
day at a time. Focus on the present and try not to predict what
may happen down the road.
As a Layman and author of an anxiety book, I have gone through
much adversity in dealing with fear and anxiety. The key is not
to give up and to learn from your mistakes. In time, you will
become more knowledgeable and experienced and eventually you
will accomplish your goals.