Experience the Energy of a Toleration-free Zone!
We all have a list of things that we are putting up with, for
example -- unmade phone calls or appointments, a car that's in
need of a tune-up, cluttered files, too much work, too little
time, a closet that is in desperate need of a clean-out, etc.
Our list of tolerations often consists of tasks that we are not
interested in doing. Yes, we are interested in having them
completed, but truthfully, can't bring ourselves to give them
conscious-thought time. We often stumble over and around these
things hoping they will resolve themselves somehow. And in the
meantime we allow these tolerations to aggravate us, suck up our
time and energy with the inconvenience they cause, clutter our
lives, and add to our overall stress level.
And so as you might expect, completing some of these tasks and
crossing them off your list is a great way to free up your
energy, decrease your stress level and generally speaking,
improve the overall quality of your life. What better time to
address these tolerations than now?
So... the question of where to begin. It's easy to start, but
even easier to avoid beginning. One way is to just stop right
now and make a list of 10, 20, maybe even more things in your
life that you are putting up with. Include the big and the small
things you are tolerating. Let your pen flow freely and see how
good it feels to list these things on paper. Once your list is
made, the following steps will support you in following through
on the "toleration elimination" process.
Toleration Elimination Process
1) Choose one item to address and handle it today so that your
list is already getting smaller.
2) Schedule appropriate items. Set target dates and schedule
time in your calendar for completion of these items.
3) Breakdown overwhelming items into smaller steps. Sometimes a
small step in the right direction is a huge step to creating the
necessary momentum for change.
4) Get help. Allow yourself to be open to asking and receiving
help, and maybe even hiring someone to complete an item. Your
job is merely to get it addressed, not necessarily to address
the item yourself.
5) Get support. Working through your list with the support of a
friend, family member, co-worker, neighbor or even a coach, can
help to keep you focused. This support can also help you respond
quickly to any fallout or change that may result from having
taken action.
6) Modify your infrastructure or goals to support the changes
you have made. Modify or take on new procedures, habits,
boundaries, relationships, etc. that will support what you want
in your life.
When looking to have the life of your dreams, consider not only
what you want in your life, but also what you don't want. Take
the necessary steps for a personal housecleaning and experience
the energy of a toleration-free zone!