How to deal with negative emotions.
Negative emotions sap your energy and undermine your
effectiveness. In the negative emotional state, you find the
lack of desire to do anything. The mind is filled with thoughts
of fear, doubts and insecurities. Your body experiences fatigue,
tightness and muscle tension.
Notice that your negative emotions arise when you respond to
something, attach a meaning to it and picture it in your mind.
You add power to it by using words to label and describe the
situation or emotion. You will then experience the sensation and
respond accordingly, as you always, have unconsciously. The
ability to deal with negative emotions will change your
responses to situations and people.
How to deal with negative emotions.
Decision.
It takes a decision to change anything. Once you decide that
you no longer want to allow your negative emotions to control
your life, you will take action to manage them when the first
hint appears.
Awareness.
You should condition yourself to become aware of your emotions
and the stimulus that trigger them. When you are aware, you are
able to look at it squarely. Train your mind to "catch" yourself
getting into an emotional state.
Questioning.
It takes conscious awareness to question your limiting feelings
and state of mind. Questioning yourself is a way to dehypontize
your way of getting into an automatic state. Question your
reasons, assumptions and understandings in order to change the
intensity and meaning you attach to your emotions.
Change your focus.
When you focus on hurtful feeling, fear and all other negative
state of emotions, you will einlarge them. You need to refocus
and divert your attention to what you want to experience.
Instead of brooding and playing disempowering images and talking
negatively to yourself, take a different action.
Since you have total control over your thoughts at any given
time, you can shift your thinking. The best way to shift your
thinking and refocus is to do something physically. Moving your
body through physical activity changes your internal state of
mind.
De-stress and relax.
When there is a lot of stress in your life, everything seems
against you. De-stress yourself at intervals during your waking
hours by taking time to relax and exercise breathing techniques.
A calm and peaceful mind is able to produce positive emotions
and a better outlook about life and events.
Accept responsibility.
Try to remind yourself that the cause of your anger, hurt and
fear are not due to external situations or people. It exists
inside you. If you can control and manage your negative
emotions, nothing out there will affect your state of mind and
body.